Why is my 12 week old waking up every 2 hours?
Babies can suddenly shift sleep patterns at around 12 weeks, waking up every two hours right before parents have to return to work. This leaves parents exhausted and desperate to break the cycle of constant night wakings before their leave ends.
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- 1Rocking the baby back to sleep2 people mentionedDid this help you?
- 2Offering a pacifierDid this help you?
- 3Feeding the baby to sleepDid this help you?
- 4Taking turns with a spouseDid this help you?
- 5Walking the child back to their roomDid this help you?
- 6Sleeping in the child's roomDid this help you?
- 7Redirecting the child repeatedlyDid this help you?
- 8Allowing a lamp to stay onDid this help you?
- 9Using incentives or small treats for staying in bedDid this help you?
- 10Putting the baby in her bed and walking away until she calms downDid this help you?
- 11Supplementing breast milk with rice cereal or introducing solidsDid this help you?
- 12Adjusting daytime naps or waking the baby up earlierDid this help you?
- 13Waiting for developmental leaps or crawling milestones to passDid this help you?
- 14Wordlessly walking the child back to bed and putting them in bed repeatedlyDid this help you?
- 15Tag-teaming with a partner to manage sleep loss and take daytime napsDid this help you?
- 16Pushing bedtime later by at least 30 minutesDid this help you?
- 17Setting the child on the potty to help snap them out of itDid this help you?
- 18Waiting for the episode to pass until the child asks for a hug or goes to the toiletDid this help you?
- 19BreastfeedingDid this help you?
- 20Cutting off breastfeeding completelyDid this help you?
- 21Having the father sleep with the baby in a different room to help weanDid this help you?
- 22Waiting for the sleep regression to pass on its own over a few weeksDid this help you?
- 23Trying various sleep training methods or subredditsDid this help you?
- 24Putting effort into long soothing and settling routines when the baby wakesDid this help you?
- 25Trying to establish a daytime routineDid this help you?
- 26Maintaining a consistent sleep environment with a dark room and white noiseDid this help you?
- 27Resettling or feeding the baby during false startsDid this help you?
- 28Doing shifts with a partner to hold the baby through the nightDid this help you?
- 29Walking up and down the room to extend napsDid this help you?
- 30Attempting the first stretch of sleep in a crib and finishing the night in arms if it failsDid this help you?
- 31Reducing naps from two to oneDid this help you?
- 32Breastfeeding and rocking the baby back to sleepDid this help you?
- 33Seeking scheduling advice regarding awake timesDid this help you?
- 34Co-sleeping while attached to the babyDid this help you?
- 35Trying various settling methodsDid this help you?
- 36Letting the baby cry it out (CIO)Did this help you?
- 37Taking over night duties so the child doesn't smell the motherDid this help you?
- 38Using a floor bed with camping mats and sleeping with the childDid this help you?
- 39Replacing oneself with a teddy bear or sneaking out to watch on a cameraDid this help you?
- 40Adjusting wake windows and feeding the child heavily before bedtimeDid this help you?
- 41Researching and using gentle sleep training methods other than cry-it-outDid this help you?
- 42Rocking the baby manually for up to 2 hoursDid this help you?
- 43Using an app to calculate built-up 'sleep pressure' and adjust daytime wake windowsDid this help you?
- 44Doing a 'super boring' middle-of-the-night routine with no talking or eye contactDid this help you?
- 45Reducing daytime sleep slightly or shifting to a later bedtimeDid this help you?
- 46establishing a strict daily routineDid this help you?
- 47getting outside time and fresh airDid this help you?
- 48cosleepingDid this help you?
- 49using the pickup put down methodDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“my 9.5month old son (born 8 weeks early - not sure if that's even relevant anymore) wakes up every night at 3/4am and will not self settle. We end up rocking him back to sleep but this can sometimes take us 1.5/2 hours!!”source ↗
“About 2 weeks ago that changed and now she is waking up every 2 hours.”source ↗
“I go back to work in less than 2 weeks and I am desperate to break this cycle.”source ↗
“My 7 year old daughter cannot fall asleep without someone in her room and then inevitably comes to my room at night to want to sleep.”source ↗
“My 3.5 year old has recently moved to a toddler bed. Wakes up at 10:30 screaming, comes into my room at 1 am becuase he also wants to get into my bed, I end up walking him back and sleeping in his room.”source ↗
“I am beyond exhausted and so is my spouse who takes turns.”source ↗
“Since baby turned 6 months, shes stopped sleeping through the night (has done since 6 weeks) so this change is killing me.”source ↗
“I'm getting maximum 3 hours of disrupted sleep a night.”source ↗
“I'm so exhausted I'm delusional and can't see straight or focus. I can't safely carry on like this anymore.”source ↗
“He keeps coming out of his room constantly.”source ↗
“This cycle can go on for hours until we finally give in and just sleep in his bed.”source ↗
“My 5 yo girl recently tends to screams and cries during the middle of the night, around maybe 2 or 4am, she'd completely tune out us parents no matter what we say to try and console her or talk some sense into her.”source ↗
“From last few days she is waking up very frequently during the night, like once every hour. Need to breastfeed her and sometimes rock to put her back to sleep. Sometimes she becomes active and plays for 1-2 hours before going back to sleep.”source ↗
“Not sure what to do and we are worried she isn’t getting enough sleep.”source ↗
“Recently, his sleeping routine has changed and he started waking up every hour or so. He starts crying and is unable to fall asleep again without out help.”source ↗
“Its extremely exhausting because it takes quite long putting him asleep, then he wakes up within a few dozen minutes.”source ↗
“I'm writing this at 11:50pm frustrated and on the verge of tears. Loretta has become a horrible sleeper. Daytime naps & nighttime.”source ↗
“For example, the other day she wound up being up from 6:40am-11:50am just because of her refusal to sleep. And this is not an outlier situation.”source ↗
“Worried for her & her development if this continues”source ↗
“Frustrated and unsure of how long I & my husband can possibly sustain doing this.”source ↗
“First issue is that at night for bedtime she will fall asleep but always have a false start and need to be resettle or feed before a longer stretch will happen, is this normal?”source ↗
“All sleep is currently in our arms and has been since she was born.”source ↗
“she always wakes after 30mins and it’s a walking up and down the room situation to keep her asleep longer.”source ↗
“Here I am at 4am rocking him back to sleep for the 5th time tonight.”source ↗
“I have him like 24/7 as I am also working from home and I am exhausted.”source ↗
“Lol, my 9 month old still wakes up 3-6 times a night! And doesn't know how to self soothe himself whatsoever.”source ↗
“it used to be rocking him to sleep which could take up to 2 hours”source ↗
“She's refusing feeds both bottle and breast when she wakes up and just screams.”source ↗
“I can't survive any longer on 3 hours of broken sleep. My vision is doubled and blurry at times and I can barely string sentences together”source ↗
“It feels brutal.”source ↗
“He's not easy to take care of. He wants to be carried most of the time, he's getting angry quite a lot, it's very difficult to put him asleep (and he does not sleep a lot during the day).”source ↗
“My 12 months old wakes up frequently at night and sometimes becomes active.”source ↗
“We even have reduced from 2 naps to 1 nap but still no improvement.”source ↗
“She can’t self soothe herself to sleep and needs breastfeeding while she dozes off”source ↗
“I'm at my whits end with my 7 month old sleep it is so bad and I don't understand why. I just can't take it any more.”source ↗
“The last month however has been hell. First she just rejected the dummy out of nowhere... Then she stopped going down after feeds instead screaming for hours in the night... And now to top it all off it's taking me over an hour to get her to bed.”source ↗
“I'm exhausted and in agony from sleeping in uncomfortable positions. Me and dad tried all sorts of settling methods and she just won't.”source ↗
“Shes 8 months old and wakes at least 10x a night if not more.”source ↗
“She fights naps equally as hard. Doesn't seem to matter what kind of day we have how strict of a routine we do, how much outside time, cosleep pickup put down you name it we have tried it.”source ↗
“My baby is 21 months old. They used to be a good sleeper from 2mo to 6mo until they started teething. They starting waking up very frequency and that never stopped.”source ↗
“They are 21mo now and still wake up almost every hour for "boobie".”source ↗
“I cant figure it why they haven't started sleeping through the night as it is really exhausting me by now.”source ↗