How to choose between two wedding dresses
When you love two different dresses equally for a small wedding, deciding which one to wear becomes overwhelming. This indecision stops you from moving forward with necessary alterations like hemming and fitting, leaving you stuck right before the big day.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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How to choose between two wedding dresses
- 1Doing an outfit change from formal to casualDid this help you?
- 2Wearing one dress to photos and one to the partyDid this help you?
- 3Using both dresses on both occasionsDid this help you?
- 4Using traditional labels like cocktail or semi-formalDid this help you?
- 5Adding descriptive adjectives to the dress codeDid this help you?
- 6Leaving out specific color requests to avoid confusing guestsDid this help you?
- 7Letting parents wear whatever colors they chooseDid this help you?
- 8Allowing parents to choose their own outfits unless they explicitly ask for suggestionsDid this help you?
- 9Looking up dress code definitions onlineDid this help you?
- 10Asking for different perspectives from other peopleDid this help you?
- 11Asking for opinions from friends or family members to gauge if an outfit is appropriate.Did this help you?
- 12Renting a standard tuxedo but adding a bow tie that matches the bridesmaids' dresses.Did this help you?
- 13Finding a suit jacket in the same color and fabric as the bridesmaids' dresses.Did this help you?
- 14Wearing a forest green or colored jumpsuitDid this help you?
- 15Wearing a white pantsuit instead of a dressDid this help you?
- 16Choosing an outfit that can be easily reworn laterDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Is this too dressy for stepmother of the bride?”source ↗
“What I’m struggling with is I really like both of these dresses.”source ↗
“I’m not sure which one for which!”source ↗
“Would drop off to get hemmed (and straps/bust altered for floral since it’s a little loose) in next day or two.”source ↗
“I have no idea what i’m doing besides knowing i’m doing forever with my person. (by no idea meaning attire)”source ↗
“we need to have matching outfits.. should we rent a tux? suit? HELP!!”source ↗
“I am getting married in the court next week and don’t know what to wear.”source ↗
“Any advice of what to wear? Also colors or has to be white?”source ↗
“I am stressing about it now cause I don’t know what to do, do you have guys any ideas or suggestions?”source ↗
“I am getting married in Montana in June of 2027, and am extremely torn on what to make my dress code.”source ↗
“Advice would be so appreciated!”source ↗
“I was trying to figure out what the accepted methods are for choosing the colors that my future wife and I’s parents will be wearing…”source ↗
“Because of this, we’re having difficulties deciding what colors will go well together in this scenario.”source ↗
“Can someone explain to me the difference between black tie, formal, cocktail and semi formal?”source ↗
“I know I can look it up but I like hearing different perspectives lol”source ↗
“I need help deciding what my bridesman should wear.”source ↗
“At first, I told him to rent the same tux as the groomsmen. But now that we are planning the ceremony and shot list, I think it might look weird for him to match the groomsmen but stand on my side.”source ↗
Where this came up
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