Guests dropping out after RSVPing yes for a wedding

“So my wedding is in 5 days.”source ↗

“About 23 days out she tells me she had “a lot of life coming at her” and couldn’t be in the right state of mind to be there.”source ↗

“Well last night she posted photos of herself and a guy on vacation in another state.”source ↗

“I don’t know what to say to her, but I’m wondering why she didn’t think I’d see that.”source ↗

“My wedding was two months ago and I am still having a hard time not feeling mad about people no call/no show or canceling morning of my wedding.”source ↗

“I even had family members and close family friends text me morning of that they can’t make it.”source ↗

“Because most of these people are close to us, I will still see them around at events and they not acknowledge anything. Not even a follow up text or apology.”source ↗

“And yes this affected us financially because of the food and drinks.”source ↗

“We had an issue getting my fiances cousin and family to RSVP. On top of getting a STD and invite with all the RSVP details, my fiance reached out to them individually 3 separate times with the RSVP link asking them to RSVP.”source ↗

“Yesterday, 10 days before the welcome party, we hear from my fiances brother that they are planning to come to the welcome party with their kid, and that another cousin (this cousins sibling) and their family and three kids are also planning to come to the welcome party, whereas they previously RSVPd no.”source ↗

“my hairstylist/makeup assistant dropped out last minute, so she ran behind about 2 hours.”source ↗

“Fast forward to now, and the choice has been nothing but stress ever since.”source ↗

“For several months, we've struggled to find space for everyone to stay, even with the added help of a partial planner.”source ↗

“Then, we got an email saying that the lake has been drained due to a natural disaster.”source ↗

“I feel so stuck, overwhelmed, and stressed by the venue, and would love some advice.”source ↗

“So as the title shows, my wedding was cancelled in Northern NJ this weekend because the venue pulled the plug over safety concerns from the nor’easter.”source ↗

“Since we lost a ton of money to vendors, we are trying to think of replacement wedding ideas just so I can wear my dress since I never got to.”source ↗

“We’re looking anywhere in the tri-state for something that we can bring our existing vendors into but that won’t cost us the price of another wedding :(”source ↗

“The day after our final headcount was due we had 3 people flat out cancel for odd reasons, and 2 more people possibly not coming but “don’t worry, they’ll tell us next week so we aren’t paying for them”… too late.”source ↗

“I’m so scared. My parents have helped us out IMMENSELY to pay for this wedding, and I feel so bad for wasting their money on so many empty chairs.”source ↗

“Life isn't going well and I can't decide if I should cancel or not ... [Small, untraditional, "destination" wedding]”source ↗

“Do I go through with it, or do I cancel... Is it cold feet... Idk”source ↗

“Just got notified by our wedding venue that due to structural damage to the venue from a small fire, they cannot guarantee the venue will be ready for our special day.”source ↗

“Option A : Go ahead and keep the date (around 3 months out) but go with a different venue.”source ↗

“Option B : Change the date and possibly keep the same venue.”source ↗

“so my wedding is in 2 days…our RSVP date was set for september 1st to give us enough time to let the caterers know a final head count. we had some people say they can’t go, of course, and then some people not even respond at all.”source ↗

“tell me why 4 DAYS before the wedding, one of my fiances friends said he’s planning on being there. he didn’t RSVP.”source ↗

“2 DAYS before the wedding, a family member texts me asking me if so and so’s kids are invited. we are having a no kid wedding and we told everyone this. the family member said that if the kids not invited then one of the parents can’t come. so again, i have to make an exception for someone.”source ↗

“At this point I am just not sure if the money and stress will be worth it for one day. Has anyone else switched gears and eloped after already sending out STD’s? I feel so guilty doing it but the thought of continuing to plan this wedding is stressing me out to the max.”source ↗

“Has anyone canceled or significantly scaled back their wedding after most of the deposits had already been paid?”source ↗

“The biggest issue is that the wedding-planning process has caused an enormous amount of stress and conflict with my mother, who is helping financially.”source ↗

“We’re also reaching the point where the remaining balances will start becoming due, so I feel like I need to make a decision before we put even more money into it.”source ↗

“now I have this fear that more people are going to no show and I’m going to be spending money for no reason.”source ↗

“Realistically, how many people that rsvp yes really show up?”source ↗

“People stating they have guests who’ve said yes and are paid for then turn around and say they can’t come.”source ↗

“To have people who are considered friends cost you money by saying yes and then not coming… it would piss me off.”source ↗

“Dealing with the seating chart has been super stressful for me, but I really wanted one to encourage people to socialize outside of who they came with.”source ↗

“Then this morning happened and I don't know what to do.”source ↗

“At this point I'm already sobbing, she knows first hand how stressful it's all been because of his family and she's been so helpful putting things together.”source ↗

“I'm so tired of planning this wedding.”source ↗

“My artist let me know late last night she would not be able to attend my wedding Saturday due to a funeral. She's sending two replacement artists.”source ↗

“My worry is that my original artist said she will not give me the contact info for the artists because she wants to remain in the loop because she is hiring them and if I need anything I will need to contact her then contact she the replacements.”source ↗

“My artist has already told me she'll be flying out that day so how easy will it be to get in contact with her? I'm trying so hard not to panic because at this point it's out of my control but holy cow i'm stressing.”source ↗

“That's why I'm here for advice and help 😭”source ↗

“I texted my photographer on Monday just to double check time and place and they asked if we could reschedule for another day bc they were working an event this Saturday and wouldn't be available.”source ↗

“Mind you, I was the one who reached out and if I hadn't I'm wondering if they wouldn't have even mentioned it or reached out to reschedule.”source ↗

“Didn't receive an apology or anything now that we have to find another date.”source ↗

“I'm already stressed with all the planning and I don't want to doubt my photographer”source ↗

“We dealt with this too. We just told them they can't come, there won't be seats for them because they responded too late and everything was finalized, and that was that.”source ↗

“Omg I don't know WHAT is in the water but people have been ridiculous with RSVPs for us too! My flair is wrong, ours is the 24th, but our our RSVP deadline was 9/1 because it is a travel heavy wedding and we are still, today, following up with people!”source ↗

“i’m unfortunately an empath and chose to accommodate people 😅and now i’m stressed”source ↗

“god i feel this in my soul. we had almost the exact same thing happen and by the week of the wedding i was ready to just elope in the parking lot”source ↗

“People are living paycheck to paycheck right now. We cancelled on a wedding we had to buy flights for. It's not you.”source ↗

“getting 5 cancellations so early I just feel so nervous for how many more I’m going to lose.”source ↗

“One of my bridesmaids ended up sick the morning of my wedding and ended up in the hospital with food poisoning”source ↗

“Hi! I have a destination wedding coming up in a month and I feel like people who were a solid confirm ( our RSVPs closed August 1st) and have been chatting to me about the wedding are now dropping out!!”source ↗

“Fast forward to 3 months before the wedding, my close friends and my aunts are cancelling one by one.”source ↗

“Put in a personal day 2 months ago for a weekend trip I take every year. Got approved the next day. Now, the day before I leave, my principal tells me they talked to the superintendent and they are going to cancel it because it’s an inservice day.”source ↗

“Here’s to having a target on my back! 😂”source ↗