How to coordinate a DIY wedding save the date suite
Designing wedding save-the-dates and sourcing components like envelopes, wax seals, and stamps separately leaves couples unsure if all the pieces look cohesive together before they order. They also run into etiquette questions about how to address envelopes properly, such as whether it is rude to omit a spouse's name or use "and guest" for older guests.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Sourcing components separately from Etsy and Amazon and designing in Canva
- 2Using 'and Guest' instead of naming the spouse directly when their name is unknown
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Is it rude only their name is on the envelope for the save the date?”source ↗
“I feel weird asking an 80 yr old professor for his wife's name. I was planning on doing something like Dr. XX and Guest. Is it rude for spouses not to be named in this context?”source ↗
“Hello! I’d love some feedback on our save the date suite before I officially order everything!”source ↗
“I designed the cards myself in Canva and sourced the envelopes, stamps, wax seals, and envelope liners separately from Etsy and Amazon.”source ↗
“Does everything feel cohesive together? Is there anything you would change, add, or simplify?”source ↗
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