How to coordinate a DIY wedding save the date suite
Designing wedding save-the-dates and sourcing components like envelopes, wax seals, and stamps separately leaves couples unsure if all the pieces look cohesive together before they order. They also run into etiquette questions about how to address envelopes properly, such as whether it is rude to omit a spouse's name or use "and guest" for older guests.
What people tried
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- 1Sourcing components separately from Etsy and Amazon and designing in CanvaDid this help you?
- 2Using 'and Guest' instead of naming the spouse directly when their name is unknownDid this help you?
- 3Drafting custom wording to indicate the late-morning ceremony and afternoon luncheon.Did this help you?
In their words
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“Is it rude only their name is on the envelope for the save the date?”source ↗
“I feel weird asking an 80 yr old professor for his wife's name. I was planning on doing something like Dr. XX and Guest. Is it rude for spouses not to be named in this context?”source ↗
“Hello! I’d love some feedback on our save the date suite before I officially order everything!”source ↗
“I designed the cards myself in Canva and sourced the envelopes, stamps, wax seals, and envelope liners separately from Etsy and Amazon.”source ↗
“Does everything feel cohesive together? Is there anything you would change, add, or simplify?”source ↗
“Currently designing my Save the Dates and trying to figure out how to word the fact that it's a daytime wedding.”source ↗
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