How to know what your kid did at school all day
Kindergarten marks a sudden shift from constant updates to total silence about a child's daily activities and social interactions. Because young children cannot yet recount their days and teachers lack the time to provide individual updates, parents are left completely in the dark and forced to guess how their child is actually doing.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
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- 1Practicing conversational skills and asking open-ended or silly questions to prompt the child to talkDid this help you?
- 2Reaching out to other parents, starting group chats, or connecting at bus stopsDid this help you?
- 3Joining the PTA or PTO and attending meetingsDid this help you?
- 4Volunteering in the classroom or for activities like library timeDid this help you?
- 5Waiting for scheduled parent-teacher conferences and curriculum nightsDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Not trying to be a helicopter parent but I feel like ever since my kiddo started kindergarten I have zero idea what is going on with my child.”source ↗
“She is too little to tell me anything and the teacher is responsive but doesn’t know her well enough to tell me much more than “she is adjusting”.”source ↗
“Totally get that, why I am asking HOW to get the info. Guess I will have to join facebook or something because I truly don’t know how to find out who is even in that class.”source ↗
“I felt this way too when my son went to Kindy. All of a sudden I had no idea what he was up to all day.”source ↗
“Yes it’s normal, and yes I hate it (but also completely understand because it’s in no way possible for teacher to give daily/weekly updates about all their kids).”source ↗
Where this came up
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