Is a holiday weekend wedding a bad idea for guests?
Holiday weekends mean heavy travel hassles and a lack of standard hotel room blocks, forcing couples to rely on scattered vacation rentals instead. These extra logistical hurdles make traveling a pain for guests and complicate the planning process.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
Share your steps and trade-offs so fellow engineers don't have to reinvent the wheel. No account required.
- 1Encouraging guests to use Airbnb and VRBO instead of hotel room blocks and to book as early as possibleDid this help you?
- 2Surveying VIP guests and close friends beforehand to gauge their availabilityDid this help you?
- 3considering booking on a FridayDid this help you?
- 4pushing the wedding date another yearDid this help you?
- 5sending save-the-dates immediatelyDid this help you?
- 6deciding whether to attend based on the closeness of the relationship with the coupleDid this help you?
- 7traveling on alternative days like Saturday to make the schedule workDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Many hotels don’t do wedding room blocks that weekend so we would encourage guests to use airbnb and vrbo and to book asap.”source ↗
“I’m curious what your overall thoughts are on doing a holiday/Labor day weekend wedding?”source ↗
“My question is, if we have it 5/27/28 is it rude to ask our family and friends to give up their holiday weekend for our wedding or does it work out having extra days off work because most people are traveling to the wedding anyway?”source ↗
“Should we push it ANOTHER year 😭?”source ↗
“Do we just book Memorial Day weekend but send the save the dates like now!?”source ↗
“traveling on holiday weekends is a pain for multiple reasons.”source ↗
“The labor day wedding we had to fly to this year was the second most expensive set of tickets I've ever purchased, and we travel quite a bit!”source ↗
“I just don’t like my 3 day weekend filled up with travel. Yes, I’m selfish about my holiday time, also yes I would probably go depending on the relationship. But we (general) don’t get a lot of bank holidays to just enjoy the weekend on our terms. Spending two of those days traveling is not a relaxing good time.”source ↗
“I get grumpy with weddings on the Sunday or Monday of long weekends (regardless of the time). I only have so many long weekends where the weather is nice, and I really value having the extra day for my own personal purposes.”source ↗
“I’d be super pissed. I have other standing plans that weekend. It’s very rude.”source ↗
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