Why are students behaving so badly and parents refusing accountability?

“I teach first grade, and my group this year has been, shall we say, behaviorally challenged. Constant interruptions (way more than normal for first grade), disrespect, fighting, you name it. I’ve struggled to bring my class under control and I’ve taught over twenty-two years now.”source ↗

“It’s not just me, though; our whole school is struggling with behavior right now.”source ↗

“that’s exactly what happened to me at a previous job. Parent didn’t want to admit their child had behavioral problems so she blamed all his actions and hurting others on me (saying i hurt the kids and blaming it on the student to cover my ass), it got the point i was put on leave and the police/child protective services got involved (i was eventually cleared of all wrong doing but it left such a negative taste in my mouth i never returned to being a full time teacher again ).”source ↗

“This year, I feel like I am putting out little fires all day long. From work refusal, to lack of independence, lack of problem solving, to a full on feral child looking for peer attention by knocking things off students' desks and dry swimming in the middle of the floor.”source ↗

“It is very disruptive to stop in the middle of instruction, walk all the way across the room, open the door, and then go back, several times each class.”source ↗

“im talking about the kids who absolutely can do the work and just wont.”source ↗

“sometimes he just doesnt feel like doing the fucking work. and honestly, sometimes a parent needs to be told straight up that their child is an asshole.”source ↗

“I stop being a teacher and become a crisis manager.”source ↗

“My energy goes toward managing those who act out, while the kids who actually want to learn are robbed of their education.”source ↗

“In my opinion, ISS is pointless and does absolutely nothing to actually correct student behavior.”source ↗

“Some kids don’t do any work at all and literally sleep the entire day.”source ↗

“If it actually corrected behavior, we wouldn’t be seeing the same kids cycling through it over and over.”source ↗

“Every year, there are a number of students who hit, kick, spit, bite, and attack others. In a sane world, we would be allowed to remove them from class. However, because they are identified as disabled, we are not allowed to remove them.”source ↗

“When a student destroys a classroom, that is our fault, not theirs. I don't think this can go on forever.”source ↗

“I have students who can basically destroy my classroom. All we can do is wait until he is done. He has declared on war on the electrical socket. He then tries to shove his pencil in it and screams at it until he is done.”source ↗

“It felt really bad to just be powerless to stop what was going on with about half the class as the other half attempted to do their work.”source ↗

“I'm going to keep working for the 6 weeks it's going to take to pull my retirement out of my account in another state I used to work in, and then terminate my contract.”source ↗

“I suck at this, this is not my strong suit, and I'm willing to admit that no matter how much I enjoy the good days; I can't cope with how bad it really gets.”source ↗

“I had students cheating on a test the other day in front of me, and I told them to stop and they did not so I left a note for the teacher.”source ↗

“Apparently they had a meeting and Mom claimed she was shocked and had never been notified in the past about behavior issues.”source ↗

“Have you ever noticed that most teachers agree PBIS doesn't work?”source ↗

“I’ve tried to pinpoint the exact issue I’m having (besides the fighting, name calling, overall dislike of each other, constant disruptions, not able to listen at all, and unable to treat school supplies and property with respect), and I think I figured it out.”source ↗

“This is the first group of first graders that I truly believe majority have NO understanding of why they are at school, why school is important, or what they are there to do.”source ↗

“I wrote down how there was a lot of student apathy, especially me being a remedial English teacher.”source ↗

“The assistant principal sent the form right back to me with the comment you saw in the title….”source ↗

“One of my classes has had the worst behavior I’ve seen in my 8 years teaching the same subject.”source ↗

“They’ll ask for random rewards or things out of the blue, only to follow up on with: “But I’ve been good.””source ↗

“The not doing and waiting for the adult to do is so frustrating for me.”source ↗

“I had to drop the idea of them doing independently the three exercise the book presented, I just had to accept that they will be doing the first one and forget the rest.”source ↗

“Shocking levels of work refusal, rudeness to school staff, aggression. It’s wild.”source ↗

“I wish I could say the same, but our kids were so bad at a pre-try out basketball scrimmage that the coach cancelled and sent the kids home. They couldn’t even behave for basketball.”source ↗

“is it normal to have them constantly talking, running around the class, lying to my face, making comments about me as a person and teacher outright, and more?”source ↗

“I thought my classroom management was on point, but NOTHING seems to work with these students.”source ↗

“The problem with this student is he likes to play songs while working which is not allowed. I have repeatedly told him to stop and he would give reasons like it helps him focus and so on.”source ↗

“Since he wouldn't stop after being told I said I'll have to take it back. He didn't want to give it back so I tried to take it from his desk. He held on to it. I did not want to engage in a struggle especially in front of other students so I let him have it back.”source ↗

“I have a group of students in my AP class who are not motivated at all.”source ↗

“They don't put in the work in my opinion.”source ↗

“I have stressed that they need to do their work so we can go at a pace that will allow us to do the whole program in the allocated time, but they are coming to my class as if they are at the cafe or in vacation.”source ↗

“How can I judge mastery for kids that refuse to turn in any work?”source ↗

“My day is barely, barely, *barely* spent thinking about how to deliver content to my students. Rather, all day, every single day, I am putting out behavioral fires.”source ↗

“It’s been so draining and exhausting, and it doesn’t feel like we’re progressing any, is anyone else experiencing the same thing?”source ↗

“Instead of suspending kids who are causing problems, admin is taking their word for that they didn’t do it, sending them back to class and moving along.”source ↗

“I can’t get through a lesson without yelling over them to stop talking and sit down the entire time.”source ↗

“I cannot stand the babysitting I have to do all day everyday.”source ↗

““You’re absent every day, and when you show up, you’re thrown out immediately.””source ↗

“My question is, wouldn’t it have been more appropriate to keep him in the office and could this have been a safety issue for me and other teachers that were present?”source ↗

“I don’t know how to feel about this.”source ↗

“She insisted he had been a straight A student in elementary... Like, Ma'am, I can see his elementary grades.”source ↗

“I believe I chose the wrong career. The kids these days do no't listen. And they want to tell you your job description.”source ↗

“And when they disrespectful to us Johnny gets a pat on the back for being rude and disorderly.”source ↗

“I have noticed an increasing trend, however: my students seem much more bored, distant and disinterested than before.”source ↗

“Now, however, I honestly feel that I am teaching a bunch of corpses. All my students have the same bored, zombie-like facial expression throughout the entire class.”source ↗

“Yet, when I walk through the classroom and look at the work they're doing, many of them obviously don't fully understand the material. But still, they never ask for help.”source ↗

“No one checked on me. No one asked me if I was okay. They left, and I simply kept teaching, trying not to show my anxiety or upset about the situation.”source ↗

“I needed a safe space to be upset, to be human and not strong teacher for a moment. And I quickly realized that isn’t often socially acceptable in teaching.”source ↗

“When used just to check boxes, kids see that teachers don't get it and are being fake.”source ↗

“I really just want them to sit down and do the work, instead of begging me every 10 minutes to go to the bathroom or if they can sit by their friends.”source ↗

“The second week is done and I am tired of fighting with them every day.”source ↗

“I am, like, at my end here.”source ↗

“I do want someone to please help me understand what the heck is going on in this child's head.”source ↗

“The student is still crying favoritism...”source ↗

“I don't get it.”source ↗

“The saddest part, for me, is that today's students don't even realize just how far behind they are compared to students just 20 years ago. I mean, far behind in every possible metric. Academics? 2-3 years off the mark, on average. Behavior? Learned helplessness and lack of impulse control has them acting like third graders well past sixth grade.”source ↗

“I get emotionally and verbally abused by students and no one gives a shit because I am just a sub.”source ↗

“Yes, students will just sit with their hand in the air, and do nothing while they wait for you to spoon feed them through problems, or just do nothing if thyme aren’t immediately led along through the work.”source ↗

“Something I'm noticing is that when my admin talks about student behaviors impacting the day... They ALWAYS talk about these behaviors like they are something that CAN be fixed. It's always a lacking on the teacher's part.”source ↗

“Today during a meeting we were asked what the problem is and when multiple people said the behaviors, admin just twisted it around and made it sound like the teachers were doing something wrong to have those behaviors in the first place.”source ↗

“Gave a quiz last week and a student raises their hand. I go over, they point at a question, and go "Is this right?" And I just look at them and say, "You know I can't tell you that!"”source ↗

“I hate when my colleagues give out our "rewards" just because someone didn't curse them out that day.”source ↗

“Worst part about this is that he's disruptive enough that it is impossible to have a class with him, but not disturbing enough to deserve a greater consequence.”source ↗

“My classes with his group end up with him being removed from the class, normally, which is something that I can do to work properly but at the same time is frustrating for everyone.”source ↗

“His problem is that the students are behaving like high school students, not like college students.”source ↗

“he only sees them once a week, can’t really establish class routines, can’t contact parents for behavior issues, can’t hold students after class… he is at a loss for how to manage their behavior.”source ↗

“I just find it draining how many children are so needy that they will constantly disrupt the class just to get an adult's attention.”source ↗

“A boy punched another student in class, and he was back a few minutes later.”source ↗

“There was one student who got into three fights in a three-day span, and they finally gave him a one-day suspension.”source ↗

“In another situation, a student beat up another kid so badly, basically tossing him around like a ragdoll, and nothing happened.”source ↗

“Today was one of the worst days that I’ve had this year and it’s only the 3rd week.”source ↗

“I have a student that has been challenging since the beginning of the year. She has a hard time sitting still and has been leaving the classroom without permission.”source ↗

“Yea I’d be having a sharp word with the administrative team if they did that do me”source ↗

“However some districts/schools take this and think that this means no consequences, no negative stuff.”source ↗

“The behaviors are off the chain. The kids talk constantly. Walk around the room. Bicker with each other (this one is my biggest pet peeve).”source ↗

“I’m so tired of being disrespected by children and expected to do work after hours and on weekends”source ↗

“my admin implemented a new rule last week: no more sending kids to the office except in extreme cases such as fights.”source ↗

“today, I had two students repeatedly smacking each other across the face, then running across the room to escape retaliation.”source ↗

“I tried calling one of their parents in front of them. mom has the school's number blocked. my powerlessness was on full display in front of the whole class.”source ↗

“the only other option I have (approved by admin) is to send the student(s) to another teacher's classroom, thereby effectively dumping my problems onto another teacher, who certainly has problems of their own.”source ↗

“how is this sustainable? the kids can do whatever they want and their only "punishment" is a 5 minute break from class!”source ↗

“at my school, we are not allowed to send kids to the office. instead, they recently implemented a "buddy room" system where each teacher has another teacher listed as their "buddy" and can send students to that other room if they are causing a disruption.”source ↗

“today, I sent a student (with a hall monitor) to my buddy room, but the student instead went to the room next door and bugged one of my teammates. my teammate yelled at me in front of all the students for disrupting her class”source ↗

“I got thrown to the wolves, with the only "support" or advice being to get tougher and be sure to control my emotions.”source ↗

“I had an interview a few weeks ago for a middle school position, and the interviewer asked me what I would do if I noticed a student was sleeping or disengaged.”source ↗

“I sometimes feel like the adults really lack control or authority over the students, and it feels like the kids are running the show”source ↗

“I also don’t know what to do when these issues come up in those spaces because if admin isn’t doing anything about it, and kids see that, any attempt made by a teacher to correct this behavior is not going to be taken well”source ↗

“I dont know how much longer I can handle this.”source ↗

“I've been threatened with assault multiple times for asking students to put away their phones.”source ↗

“I stay past contract hours every day, and skip lunch most days to deal with behavioral issues.”source ↗

“I'm only 24 and feel like this situation is taking years off my life.”source ↗

“The rest of them screamed, ignored me, walked in and out of the classroom and God knows what else.”source ↗

“On the way out, I had things thrown at me several times and I could feel the way it hit that it wasn't a coincidence.”source ↗

“I lost it, returned to the teacher's room and just cried.”source ↗

“If a student is sleeping, I gently try to wake them. If that fails, I let them be.”source ↗

“No support from admin or district because it’s all about the money now. I’m 9 years into this district and I’m contemplating walking away at Christmas break. It’s miserable.”source ↗

“What does everyone do when a student copies another student’s homework when collaboration is not allowed? In the past I’ve given both students zeros on the assignment. Now I have a student saying they “didn’t know” the other student copied from them and wants credit. How would you handle this situation?”source ↗

“What can I do to get my grade up?”source ↗

“Principals and Deans say meet the kids where they are at. After two years I see that they mean give them anything they want.”source ↗

“The kids don’t make it better. My last class is full of kids with misbehavior issues on top of my lessons feeling disorganized and loose.”source ↗

“When I came back apparently it was chaos and I was deeply embarrassed.”source ↗

“The only thing they respond to is someone yelling. I am tired of yelling. I am tired of preaching. I just want them to shut the fuck up and learn.”source ↗

“I'm at a point in the class where I just straight up don't know WHAT to do with this kid because of his tendencies.”source ↗

“I just want to make sure I don't let him dictate my classroom but I don't want to abandon him as a student either and just say he's too difficult and give up on him”source ↗

“If anyone has any tips on what I can do with him or ways I can help to avoid/regulate the chaos in my classes, that would be deeply appreciated.”source ↗

“Aaaaaaaaaand makes me want to quit.”source ↗

“But this group of 4 kept on and had to be told multiple times yesterday until I threatened to send them all to ISS.”source ↗

“Today I separated them (something I've been threatening if they didn't chill out)”source ↗

“Of course they tried arguing ... I get that.”source ↗

“I can put on a tough and unbothered facade, but I struggle to let it go when I'm home. I tend to stay angry and ruminate into the evening.”source ↗

“Yes, on year 26...can't wait to jump off the crazy train.”source ↗

“Today was the roughest day I’ve ever had in six years.”source ↗

“Came back to a destroyed room and every hour the sub left “nothing to report””source ↗

“I go into school looking forward to these kids being out for a day or two, since they're always the ones stirring up trouble, only to find all 5 were back in school Friday morning.”source ↗

“As a matter of fact, the only "consequence" was a quick chat with the the principal and our "restorative coordinator" and they were back roaming the halls.”source ↗

“Middle school PE teacher checking in here. I teach grades 6-8. My 6th and 8th grade kids are almost always fine and usually a delight to work with, but oh my goodness 7th grade is a nightmare.”source ↗

“They have the absolute worst attitudes in my classes.”source ↗

“I have two students in second grade who completely refuse to do almost ANY work in class.”source ↗

“When I go over to help them, I get yelled at.”source ↗

“This is a behavior issue as well and when I try to help them, it just seems to make it worse.”source ↗

“It's exhausting to get yelled at everyday.”source ↗

“This year honestly has me rethinking teaching altogether.”source ↗

“I remember a student asking me how they could bring their grade up....in December...after having not done any assignments at all and having skipped practically the whole semester.”source ↗

“I have hated every second of it.”source ↗

“This week me and my partner teacher has had lunch duty and it has been a nightmare.”source ↗

“I had to yell really loud at them and it made me feel guilty for the rest of the day.”source ↗

“Honestly just having lunch duty makes me want to call in sick.”source ↗

“The IEP that worked perfectly well last year? The one that gives a lot of accommodations that have worked for years, has reasonable goals, was approved, and had benchmarks she'd been meeting? We sure it's not that your kid just decided to fuck around and not try anymore because she has one class that's kinda hard and she'd easily be able to pass if she just showed up?”source ↗

“I feel like im going crazy because it feels like we all know why schools are failing(big class sizes, tons of behavior, and teachers are stretched thin) but everyone is pretending its not that.”source ↗

“So this is my 8th year, and I am feeling like I am hitting a wall here.”source ↗

“Without any warning, he will start screaming and ripping papers off the walls, dumping out bookshelves, throwing things, etc.”source ↗

“If it's a kid who likes to make a show of how bored they are to avoid work, I'm waking them up every time.”source ↗

“Had a student sleeping multiple days in a row, woke him up but it was hard to do and it was a little intimidating as he outweighed me by over 100lbs.”source ↗

“One of my students made herself throw up all over our class because I told her I wouldn’t change her hairstyle during our lesson.”source ↗

“Another student keeps leaving for actually 20+ minutes to the bathroom and he’s doing more than just #1 & #2 if you catch my drift.”source ↗

“Another student is actually bullying and has had cases opened about it but never enough evidence plus parents of course do not believe what is occurring is in fact bullying.”source ↗

“On Tuesday a Grade 7 class told me I was their favourite teacher. On Wednesday, they told me they want their old teacher back 😂”source ↗

“I was a little afraid they would complain to admin or something, as I’m a new teacher there.”source ↗

“If an assignment states it’s due in 2 days, but is handed in on the third day, that’s not a behavioral issue.”source ↗

“What works with them because I’ve tried kindness accommodating and that hasn’t worked. It has only emboldened them.”source ↗

“I’ve gone to the next step of following though the discipline plan and that has provoked them.”source ↗

“Do I put them in corner as they watch their YouTube and cuss along as they watch their videos because that’s all they want to do.”source ↗

“I call an administrator, but we are legally not allowed to hold them. We have been sued for holds, so the district has defacto not allowed them.”source ↗

“So I’ve been tutoring this girl who’s in grade 9 for about 2 months in mathematics as of now.”source ↗

“she was adamant in only doing her school homework in class and would tune out when I mention a misconception/ suggest more questions on that.”source ↗

“As such, I feel like our sessions aren’t adding much and personally feel bad for wasting her time alongside her parents money.”source ↗

“Students in class who are diagnosed with disorders like ADHD or god knows what else (one guy has an opinion from a specialist that's so long it would be easier to list things he can do instead), are basically allowed to do whatever.”source ↗

“How can anyone be expected to teach anything in such circumstances?”source ↗

“Did anyone here have this issue? What did you do about it? What can be done about it?”source ↗

“Miserable in all aspects of life. Every teacher I talk to feels the exact same way.”source ↗

“These kids are truly out of control, I already made one post about them on this sub so I won't get into it here!”source ↗

“Idk, I just didn't know what else to do after exhausting all attempts to gain control over them- hopefully that was "acceptable" to my admin.”source ↗

“So I have a student (Kindergarten) who likes to come up to my face and scream or sing loudly to get a reaction out of me.”source ↗

“I’m not sure what to do anymore because I’m trying to make sure he doesn’t get hurt.”source ↗

“Like I said, I brought this up to someone else…not much was done, so not sure what to do at this point.”source ↗

“Putting ESL, 10 IEPs, having to deal with kids who destroy the class and hit you (or worse) and still being expected to get everyone to learn”source ↗

“Can’t fail anyone even when deserved !”source ↗

“Extremely passive students that sit in class and refuse to participate in discussions, barely pay attention to instruction, and put in below minimum effort in their work.”source ↗

“And still, they don't change. They remain passive, and every answer they give is 'I don't know'.”source ↗

“I cannot handle the behaviour anymore. I have become a baby sitting service.”source ↗

“I am too busy dealing with the BS behaviour all day every day from every grade.”source ↗

“I am having a lot of behavioral issues. Everyday I go home, I’m just so defeated because I’ve exhausted all of my energy trying to redirect behavior and also deal with the cluster students.”source ↗

“I've only been teaching since 2010 and the difference in student problem solving, critical thinking, grit, endurance, pride in their work, etc. is night and day.”source ↗

“I’m upset because we have students with behavioral problems and I have zero training and hardly any support.”source ↗

“I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been kicked in the boob, knees, and nearly face. Recently, I was bit.”source ↗

“But my point is: I’m not trained for kids who do this. I was promised training, since we aren’t allowed to restrain kids”source ↗

“Lately, he’s been under observation and I’m glad, but I’m surprised no one mentioned him needing an IEP.”source ↗

“I was promised training, they said it’s coming, but I’m losing hope. He’s under observation and I know those things take time. But I’m getting so burnt out.”source ↗

“In the early grades we are missing out on absolutely vital building block type knowledge because of six or seven students who need 1-2 adults to personally manage them/prevent them from hurting someone or destroying the room.”source ↗

“And really the thing that breaks is going to be the teacher. We are already coming apart at the seams. I didn't pee or drink water today.”source ↗

“I’m a first year teacher genuinely at my wits end. I have tried everything possible with one of my classes and they are just completely unmanageable.”source ↗

“Their last three English teachers have quit because of this class.”source ↗

“I feel like I’m going to have a heart attack from stress every day.”source ↗

“My elementary kids are crazy- the attention span is horrible and I have to scream and threaten office / calls home to get them under control.”source ↗

“I hate when I notice a kid doing something good and call it out and I immediately get multiple ‘what about me!!!??’.”source ↗

“First year sixth grade teacher, my kiddos have been decently quiet for the first two weeks but now their “true personalities” have come out. I have a lot of kids in my first period who are disruptive.”source ↗

“I feel like my grip is starting to slip and my classroom is about to dive into chaos.”source ↗

“I have a student that has LOST all his CLASSWORK and HOMEWORK assignments. His mother has asked that we give the work to her. FUCK NO.”source ↗

“I have a wild group of students my last period and I’m struggling with them.”source ↗

“If I give them any silent work time or group time when I’m not directly teaching, they immediately start talking.”source ↗

“The pay is terrible when you look at the level of responsibility and work. It's about $125 a day here, which you can literally make at several fast food restaurants and big box stores.”source ↗

“The behaviors have gotten bad. In the last 8 years I've worked at schools where a student knocked out 2 of a sub's teeth...”source ↗

“I hate how often I am forced to work outside my specialty. I am a chemistry teacher licensed to teach chemistry and contracted to teach Chemistry and AP Chemistry.”source ↗

“We experience a complete disregard for authority, concerning work quality/completion, no consequences or follow through due to shitty admin, among many other things.”source ↗

“today was my first day with Pre-K. i totally get it.”source ↗

“What happens to students in your class when they throw a fit so large that they start hitting, kicking, biting, etc? What about spitting at somebody or demolishing a classroom?”source ↗

“I’m a first year middle school Spanish teacher and I guess I’m just looking for advice/reassurance because this week absolutely kicked my ass lol.”source ↗

“I’m trying to figure out procedures, consequences, organization, etc. while already teaching every day.”source ↗

“Classroom management is probably the hardest part. My 8th graders have their moments, but my 7th graders constantly talk/call out, get up, interrupt me, have side conversations, etc.”source ↗

“I really do like teaching and want to be good at this, but right now I feel like I’m building the plane while flying it.”source ↗

“To say the least I have been struggling tremendously to the point it’s affecting my mental health and I’m very depressed.”source ↗

“I’m also 15 weeks pregnant and have been dealing more than a lot.”source ↗

“I currently have a sub para who has zero training and has only ever been a para for a side job.”source ↗

“I have aggressive students who hit, attempt to hit, yell, throw things and stand on tables and try to climb things.”source ↗

“I come home and cry everyday and regret ever going into this profession and taking this job.”source ↗

“My problem is that admin never extend this expectation to themselves. They get to interact with the kid after they've calmed down... Why are teachers the only ones being held accountable here?”source ↗

“If you are seriously injured while doing so, no one will care - not your admin, and not your Workman's Comp. doctor.”source ↗

“Instead, call for admin assistance. Let admin figure out how they want to deal with it. As you saw for yourself, the students were not even suspended. That tells you everything you need to know about your toothless admin.”source ↗

“Mom said “this is the first I’ve heard of this. He always got along in pre-k. What are others doing to set him off?” Excuse after excuse.”source ↗

“The principal literally sent me an email written entirely in chatgpt saying that "there is no discipline policy" after my child was punched by the same child two years in a row.”source ↗

“PBIS is a joke. It’s all about keeping suspension rates down for funding and job security for admins/district higher ups while the kids who want to learn and school faculty/staff suffer and get gaslighted.”source ↗

“My classroom management is still crappy and I’m afraid it’ll cost me my job this time: help?”source ↗

“I can’t get most of the kids to do anything by, and I don’t know what to do about it.”source ↗

“When I get to work I always have this terrible pit in my stomach waiting for the day to start and the torture to begin.”source ↗

“The big one is just a lack of accountability. Everybody gets passed now, and cheating is treated like a joke.”source ↗

“I am having some trouble with 3 students not completing their book work.”source ↗

“I am out of ways to support him at a second grade level because he does not understand what is even being taught to him.”source ↗

“I feel like I am loosing my mind and I am afraid to have admin come in and see how terrible it can be in my class.”source ↗

“I reported a handful of incredibly nasty bullying incidents from the same student, and the kid got pulled out once for a 5min convo and came right back to class.”source ↗

“I know how I feel about it. It’s bullshit!”source ↗

“The emotional toll of showing up every day, and being treated with constant disrespect when you’re just trying to help and do your job is immense.”source ↗

“He doesn’t do any work.”source ↗

“I don’t want that pattern to continue, however it’s super hard not to.”source ↗

“Here’s my thing, I just don’t like rewarding for the bare minimum.”source ↗

“Its my first year in education and i have a level 2 student who constantly elopes and does not have any one on one support, i have no other aids in my class so i cannot constantly go coax her back inside and leave my students alone, and my school offers no help or pointers aside from using prizes to motivate her to stay inside class”source ↗

“i am not trained in special ed to know how to handle these things”source ↗

“i also don’t know how to explain to my class when they ask why she doesn’t have to participate in the assignments they do without othering her”source ↗

“I am returning to high school teaching next year after mat leave and a secondment teaching primary and would love to hear your success stories for routines or strategies for classroom management.”source ↗

“All I hear is that teens are different now, lower attention span, overall lack of motivation and I want to start on the right foot.”source ↗

“Hello, I'm looking for a solid point system i can use to both incentivize and discipline my students in grades 3 and 4.”source ↗

“This is just a brainstorm of mine and it still looks sloppy so I'm open to ideas.”source ↗

“I'm in a similar situation and trying not to completely lose it on them.”source ↗

“I’ve tried this! I’ve even asked the louder students to remind us of the expectation to stamp it, but a minute later they begin chatting. It’s driving me crazy.”source ↗

“This year, my middle school kids seem very different, in a bad way. Apathy and negative behavior are a given, but I can’t seem to get these guys to care about anything at all.”source ↗

“One class particularly that we all share is a significant challenge behaviorally and with getting them to turn in anything at all.”source ↗

“Public schools are struggling due to the large uptick of problem behaviors, lack of parent involvement, screen usage impacting attention space, and a host of other issues.”source ↗

“And here I was considering jumping ship to a private school. ::sigh::”source ↗

“Pay is super low. You have to want it or working at target or something is pretty much the same. It can be hard if the school and students are rowdy, they often don’t respect subs...”source ↗

“Nothing makes me happy except feeling finished enough with work to take a break. And feeling safe from the soul-sucking judgment and scrutiny that comes with teaching the public.”source ↗

“the lack of real admin backup makes everything feel ten times heavier than it needs to be”source ↗

“I'm struggling. I moved from 8th grade math to 5th grade math, administrative transfer.”source ↗

“This group of 5th grade is bad, with a capital B.”source ↗

“Behavior is so bad, I am getting through a small opener activtiy, one model problem and a small exit ticket.”source ↗

“I woke up this morning in a full panic and I am just struggling.”source ↗

“Parents, admin, students having zero consequences for their actions.”source ↗

“Every little thing will get them to test your boundaries. I was getting to a really good place with my seventh graders. Then I got sick, followed immediately by homecoming. I’ve had to review and practice expectations like it’s the second week of school again.”source ↗

“Yes, the admin at my school has, in the past, tried to implement (force) buddy rooms. It never worked. Ever. The worst part of it was that, since I was widely known as the disciplinarian who doesn't tolerate misbehavior, my room became the dumping ground despite the fact that buddy rooms were assigned and were organized by grade level.”source ↗

“PBIS and PAX are just clicker training for humans. Condescending and disrespectful to the children.”source ↗

“The amount of times I hear students say Idk really irks me, especially after i’ve explained the directions and reiterated It multiple times and practically gave them the answer.”source ↗

“Honestly it is so ridiculous like I am gonna crash out the next time I hear someone say Idk😭😭😭 I’m really contemplating my career choice.”source ↗

“So many students write IDK in the space where it says “What action did you commit that earned you a detention?””source ↗

“A lot of them made a point to try and ruin things for everyone else so they wouldn’t have to do anything.”source ↗

“Yes. Especially second half of 7th. They can be feral.”source ↗

“none of her teachers can get her to engage and know she has home life things so as long as she doesn’t disrupt class I mostly let her be.”source ↗

“she’s currently failing 7/8 classes due to refusal to engage and inlet students move to sit anywhere they want.”source ↗

“I beat myself up for loosening up on rituals and routines here and there, but sometimes it is just mentally exhausting to reinforce every single detail of the day.”source ↗

“the honeymoon period is over for me as well, lol”source ↗

“A lot excuses and stories and bullshit .”source ↗

“Sometimes no matter how much you put the material on a wiffleball stand, hand the kids a tennis racket, and put a beachball on the stand, the kids just refuse to participate.”source ↗

“And our time is better spent on those that are already engaged and who want to learn.”source ↗

“At this point I’m not even sure what PBIS is “supposed” to look like, but I know the way it’s presented and implement is flawed.”source ↗

“It’s become nothing but a data manipulation scheme.”source ↗

“I feel that one boy shouldn’t have chosen the subject.”source ↗

“Secondly I’m finding that they are not as capable as all the previous groups I’ve had at this level.”source ↗

“I am just not warming to them as a group.”source ↗

“I actually dread them.”source ↗

“I kept waking up with the screaming woohoos in the morning, and breaking down in my car, crying, every damn lunch time.”source ↗

“I’m very concerned about this development but I also really don’t want to be a nark teacher but I’m getting concerned about safety.”source ↗

“My students have been throwing chairs, screaming, throwing books at her, making jokes about her appearance, and today she took them outside for the end of the day and three kids ran off and left school grounds.”source ↗

“I have a group of about 5 boys who were separated since kindergarten and are now all together due to the 3rd grade team last year thinking the boys would have a veteran teacher who was promoted, hence me getting this job.”source ↗

“The boys have trauma and in some cases adhd and get into screaming matches and physical altercations daily which I am mostly able to deescalate, but overall they don’t listen to me, leave the classroom when they please, run around, are talking constantly, play in the back of class during instruction.”source ↗

“I know I need to bond more with all of them but tbh I have ptsd myself and I don’t know if I have the capacity to focus any more time and attention on them than I already do.”source ↗

“Going to work daily is taking a toll on my own mental health and I’m thinking of leaving the field bc I just want to be able to heal from my own trauma in peace.”source ↗

“The one that's impacted us the most is the way in which disruptive behavior has increasingly been harder to deal with, and the lack of balance when it comes to providing a safe and valuable educational experience to the entire class, without it being dragged down by behavior classes or students who are years behind academically.”source ↗

“She reached breaking point and cried when a colleague checked on her.”source ↗

“On Day 2, a child threw a metal water bottle across the room, hitting another child in the head. That child had to be sent home with a suspected concussion.”source ↗

“She is becoming a shell of herself and is seriously considering leaving the profession once our youngest reaches secondary school.”source ↗

“I gave up teaching last Christmas because this is how I felt then… spent 13 years teaching and I swear it’s just getting worse year on year.”source ↗

“These kids are incredibly tiring. A month in school feels like eternity.”source ↗

“When we call admin, admin comes and sits and takes notes. They do not stir themselves to help even if it means that children are putting themselves or one another in danger.”source ↗

“Blame the teacher so we dont have to deal with it. And it is FUCKING INSANE. Blaming teachers needs to end.”source ↗

“My class is nothing but a zoo. So far behind on teaching, go home exhausted, refuse to yell, kids listen when other teachers come in. I call parents and send emails. So tired of this day in and day out. HELP!!”source ↗

“In fact our principal said that teachers who write referrals are a bigger part of the problem than the students exhibiting the behavior.”source ↗

“Yes! I can’t send my most disruptive kid out of the classroom because it would “activate trauma and make him feel rejected” but what about the learning for the other students? Why doesn’t that matter AT ALL?”source ↗

“the parents a few steps down from the top try to throw their weight around on behalf of their spoiled brats all "you can't treat my kid like this don't you know who I am"”source ↗

“I feel like I’m doing “all the things” ( building rapport, greeting students at the door, positive contacts, conscious discipline ) but it never feels enough.”source ↗

“I’m having trouble holding students accountable.”source ↗

“Please help me! I feel like I’m drowning.”source ↗

“I hear you, but I’ve literally had students tell me they like being bad and they enjoy being suspended 😆.”source ↗

“First day of teaching on Monday and I am going to throw up”source ↗

“I am very nervous because I don't know how to manage teens and I have a lot og anxiety and might get a panic attack.”source ↗

“However, the behaviors are really tough, and I find myself trying to address all behaviors not realizing this is a one year gig for me and resume builder. I have already missed a couple of days due to mental exhaustion.”source ↗

“Do I just ignore some smaller behaviors to keep my sanity or become a drill sergeant and try to get them in line so the day-to-day is easier?”source ↗

“However, with fall break coming up this week I feel like they’ve spontaneously regressed back into a feral state.”source ↗

“I’m tired of repeating the same rules over and over, never ending referrals and emails home, and many of them still don’t care.”source ↗

“Students will even get suspended and come back acting the exact same way as I’ve they’ve learned nothing from what happened.”source ↗

“Our 5 year old started preK this year. Within 5 weeks, she's got 6 official notices for disobedience and at least twice as much emails about her behavior.”source ↗

“I would love feedback on consequences for this situation, I feel woefully unprepared.”source ↗

“I am struggling to come up with further natural consequences.”source ↗