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Groomsmen refusing to buy wedding shoes

Groomsmen often resist buying specific-colored shoes, like blue, because they feel they will never wear them again. This conflict leaves couples stuck between compromising their wedding aesthetic or forcing bridal party members to purchase items they view as a waste of money.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    Allowing groomsmen to wear standard black or brown shoes they already own
  2. 2
    Having the groomsmen rent different suits that match alternative shoe colors
  3. 3
    Letting go of the specific shoe color requirement to avoid conflict

In their words

Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.

“As a man, and one that is very particular about my footwear, I am not wearing blue shoes with anything, also, as a professional, I am never going out without a belt.”source ↗

Fluid_Cry_4801 · r/weddingplanning · 1 upvotes

“Groomsmen immediately formed a different group chat and started telling the groom that they don’t want to buy the shoes because they will never wear them again if they are blue”source ↗

“I told the groom that if the groomsman refuse to wear the shoes in the color I picked then they can rent a suit that matches the color they want to wear because the color they want to wear does not go with the outfit I picked. Am I being unreasonable? I truly cannot see it and need help.”source ↗

Nameless_consult · r/weddingplanning

Where this came up

r/weddingplanningconflict resolutionwedding planning

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