Why is my new puppy suddenly scared of my husband?
A new puppy will sometimes tuck its tail and run from a specific partner in the home. Minor incidents like a dropped item or loud noise can trigger this intense fear and cause massive setbacks. This constant distancing prevents the two from bonding and leaves the partner feeling rejected and disheartened.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
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- 1Having the family member carve out one-on-one time for play, meals, training, or treatsDid this help you?
- 2Moving slower, quieter, and keeping movements small and not erraticDid this help you?
- 3Applying the 3/3/3 rule for puppy acclimationDid this help you?
- 4Having the feared person be the one to feed the dog and give treats.Did this help you?
- 5Having the feared person stay out of the dog's way to avoid scaring her.Did this help you?
- 6Having the feared person take the dog on walks to build positive associations.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“The problem we’re still facing now is that she is having trouble bonding with my husband.”source ↗
“Since Day 1, she has been anxious around him.”source ↗
“However, one setback such as a loud noise from a dropped item or a random incident where she’s startled due to no fault of my husband, and she’ll go several steps back and distance herself from him including running away.”source ↗
“It’s really disheartening for my husband who really cares for her but can’t be close to her.”source ↗
“He has been absolutely perfect and fits into our home really well. We are so happy with him BUT he is showing some fearful/anxious behavior towards my fiance?”source ↗
“He came home Tuesday and on Saturday began showing this fear towards my fiance. When he hears him coming, he tucks his tail and runs or backs away very quickly.”source ↗
“I can tell it's really hurting my fiance's feelings, he was never a dog person but is really loving this puppy but now he feels rejected.”source ↗
Where this came up
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