Can I refuse to show my employer my new offer letter?
You can refuse to share your new joining letter, as the document has nothing to do with your current company. The difficulty lies in finding a way to decline the inappropriate request without causing problems during your notice period.
What the numbers show
Counted from the threads quoted below. How we count
- People have been saying this in most months since September 2026.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
Share your steps and trade-offs so fellow engineers don't have to reinvent the wheel. No account required.
- 1Refusing to share the letter and keeping the details privateDid this help you?
- 2Telling the employer no thank you without giving detailsDid this help you?
- 3Waiting until updating LinkedIn laterDid this help you?
- 4Accept the position for a short period to get foot in the door and experience, then quit or re-evaluate.Did this help you?
- 5Negotiate the offer for higher salary or relocation assistance while continuing to apply for other roles in target locations.Did this help you?
- 6Look for shared housing with roommates close to work to minimize expenses.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Now they've asked me to give my joining letter as proof of my new job. I feel that this request is inappropriate, and I'm not comfortable sharing a document that has nothing to do with them.”source ↗
“Can I simply refuse, or is there a better way to answer without causing problems during my notice period?”source ↗
“I'm in the final stages for a position at a small consulting firm in LA, and I'm struggling with whether to take it if offered or continue searching.”source ↗
“The starting salary is substantially below what I was targeting. I'd have to relocate across the country to a city I never envisioned living in, far from my support system.”source ↗
“I can afford to continue searching for a while longer, but I also recognize that finding another opportunity could take months, and there's no guarantee it'll be better.”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
- 3My job offer was rescinded before my start date
- 2How to deal with the awkwardness of volunteering after a job rejection
- 3Got another job offer after accepting one
- 7Should I accept a counteroffer after resigning?
- 2Waiting for a written offer letter after verbal acceptance
- 4Quitting my job before finding a new one