How to balance a corporate career with having kids

“I am currently on the fence about having kids, as I worry the stress of a corporate job will interfere with the time I get to spend and be present with my children.”source ↗

“At this point, I don't have any ambitions to climb the ladder.”source ↗

“I am a Director and trying to determine whether to stay in HR or pivot to something else. I am burnt out.”source ↗

“So I have two job offers on the table. One for a senior accountant role pay at 120k hybrid (1-2 days in office). The other for a staff accountant role pay at 95k fully remote. I’ve been a staff accountant for the last 4 years fully remote and love the convenience of being remote. Which job should I take?”source ↗

“now I and my wife are stressing on how we are going to handle it with how busy the job is.”source ↗

“Is there anyone in this subreddit that has had twins while slaving away in public accounting? How did you make it work with your demanding schedule to support your partner and new family?”source ↗

“So I have a few questions! I’m a new mom and I have to pivot my career.”source ↗

“Please help, mommy brain is whooping my butt on how to proceed haha”source ↗

“I left public when I looked at most of the Partners that I worked for and none of them were happy or living fulfilling personal lives. I didn't want to live the rest of my life being a workaholic neglecting their family.”source ↗

“the 4 day in office policy at their head office in downtown Toronto is going to be hard for me. I'm the designated parent to pick up and drop off my kids from school.”source ↗

“The school they're going to in Mississauga doesn't have any spaces available in their after school program at the moment. I'm sort of stuck and not sure what to do.”source ↗

“I’ve heard some express they hate their life because all they do is work.”source ↗

“That is what I’m going back and forth about in my mind. The fully remote staff accountant role is exactly what I’m looking for with a great team. But I feel like the senior accountant suits my career growth a lot more.”source ↗

“Agreed. Trying to get out now for that reason. I expressed frustration to a partner after this past busy season of how little I saw my kids for 4 months.”source ↗

“I’m terrified though, of balancing teaching and parenting.”source ↗

“I feel like when i start my family I’m going to have to sacrifice a lot of what i do as a teacher in order to be a good parent due to how much energy i use up during the day and how mentally exhausted I am”source ↗

“When my son was little I sacrificed a lot of time with him for my students (started teaching when he was 2). I regret that every day.”source ↗

“Oh yeah. I neglected my daughter and kept her at daycare while I was making copies and preparing at school. I should have balanced more out. Didn’t realize it at the time.”source ↗

“I have two kids and am worried that this program is going to be impossible to complete in two years.”source ↗

“Over almost 25 years, my tank some times was empty at the end of the day for my girls and husband.”source ↗

“My biggest concern is time. I have a family, and i want to be able to go on a vacation now and then. But is that possible if i’m the only guy in the company?”source ↗

“I have 3 kids, travel 2 hours a day for work, hardly get to see them - and when I’m home the wife goes to work, I don’t want to live the rest of my life like this, I miss everything important with my children.”source ↗

“I am frustrated because my business needs time and effort to grow or at least maintain but the constraints of all the family stuff means that I end up bound by this 9-5 schedule.”source ↗

“yes I can absolutely tell her "Hey, I have to miss dinner tonight and you'll have to take the kids to their respective activities because of some work stuff" but it's usually met with sighs and complaints and it feels like she's doing me a favor”source ↗

“I've had to step away on family vacations to fix an emergency. All of that kind of baggage im sure makes an impression.”source ↗

“Building your own thing can consume you way more than working for someone else. I find I need to be more intentional with my time.”source ↗

“Cautionary tale - we didn't manage this well and it built incredible resentment on the behalf of the spouse that did all the default parenting, household and social management.”source ↗

“I get it - it sounds like the dream, but staring at a screen all day just to be present is getting old.”source ↗

“I am struggling because the entire time I'm at work, she is losing her mind about the kids and it makes me feel bad that she has to deal with them on her own because I'm at work.”source ↗

“When I get home I'm always so exhausted it's very hard for me to interact with the 3 year old.”source ↗

“On top of that I am having to occasionally bring my computer home from work and complete additional work. I also am attempting to study very hard for my CCNA certification and I just feel I'm unable to balance any of this in life.”source ↗

“We would like to have the time to work or explore new work-related things, but it just feels like we can't afford the time.”source ↗

“The precious few minutes where we can talk, read or do anything non-child related are interrupted by hours of child needs.”source ↗

“There's also this thought in the back of my (our?!) heads that we are "wasting" the most productive years of our life”source ↗

“How do you even find the time to read a book?”source ↗

“one thing that became clear to me today is that the amount of stuff that we need to learn in this field never ends.”source ↗

“so if the learning never ends, if this is a never ending journey, then how do you guys balance work-life balance along with upskilling?”source ↗

“That depends on how you define successful. If I have to give up my family life, that is not something I would consider a success.”source ↗

“Most of my business life has overlapped with being a dad. Is it hard? Yeah. Sacrifices each way, some long nights with the wife trying to figure out and then re-figure out the balance.”source ↗

“There was a period of time where it was work, home, dishes, bathe kid, put kid to bed, work. It was a lot. I gained weight. Didn't feel like I had anything but my job and my child - and that was probably true.”source ↗

“There have been conferences I've missed, on sites I've turned down, and - generally - growth gone unrealized. Days completely thrown away due to family sicnkess.”source ↗

“Conversely there are school picnics I've missed, times we've had to over rely on grandmom because I've been unable to tag in, negligence of family time when we were all together because someone was having a crisis in my inbox.”source ↗

“do i continue the application processes for grad school? Or do i focus on applying to other jobs?”source ↗

“I am worried that if i get a job my grad school plans will stay forever far and the longer the gap the harder it will be to get back into.”source ↗

“Is there really no choice for me but to stop all self development and just save as much as i can to work elsewhere and help out the fam?”source ↗

“I don't know what to do.”source ↗