Can you have two maids of honor?
Having two equally close best friends makes choosing just one impossible without feeling guilty or hurting feelings. Brides get stuck because they want to honor both people equally without causing family or friendship drama.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
Share your steps and trade-offs so fellow engineers don't have to reinvent the wheel. No account required.
- 1not having a maid of honor at allDid this help you?
- 2making the best friend the maid of honor and the sister and other friend co-maids of honorDid this help you?
- 3Choosing co-best menDid this help you?
- 4Making the brother a groomsman and giving him a specific role during the ceremony like a reading or walking mom down the aisleDid this help you?
- 5Assigning both people as co-maids of honor or dividing wedding party roles differently (e.g., having one as a bridesmaid).Did this help you?
- 6Defining clear expectations, communication, and specific assignments for each person.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Tbh I can’t really chose between them both to have a single maid of honour as I view them as my 2 equals.”source ↗
“Has anyone had 2 (or more) maid of honours on their special day? And if so, how did it work?”source ↗
“I (22F) *want* to choose a maid of honor but feel bad about it.”source ↗
“I’m just stuck because I don’t want my sister to be super mad or hurt or feel lonely or like I don’t love or prioritize her or anything.”source ↗
“I’m struggling with who to choose as my best man. My first choice is one of my closest friends. He’s my go-to person for everything.”source ↗
“I feel somewhat obligated to choose my brother because he chose me, even though my friend is the person I’d otherwise pick.”source ↗
“I don’t know whether choosing my friend would cause any family drama, but I worry it could hurt my brother’s feelings.”source ↗
“I’m in a difficult position where my little sister (21) and my (23) best friend (who isn’t married) both play an important role in my life.”source ↗
“Both know me so well and I just don’t know who to choose. Is it too complicated if I do two maid of honors?”source ↗
Where this came up
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