How to pick a wedding date when it's too close to birthdays
Scheduling a wedding near personal birthdays forces couples to pick and choose which days to celebrate because they cannot travel or host back-to-back special occasions. This overlapping calendar prevents friends and family from being able to attend multiple events without exhausting their time and travel resources.
What the numbers show
Counted from the threads quoted below. How we count
- This comes up 17.8× more often in r/Parenting than across the site as a whole.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Moving the wedding to a different month to spread out celebrations
- 2Celebrating the anniversary in a different season regardless of the actual wedding month
- 3Checking schedules with close friends beforehand
- 4Scheduling parties for early or mid-afternoon to work around church or sports
- 5Sending invitations out several weeks in advance
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Saturdays, you will be competing with sports. Sundays, you will be competing with football parties.”source ↗
“I can’t speak for all of course, but my family and our friends typically use Sunday for cleaning and prepping for the week ahead.”source ↗
“Sunday worked best for us. A lot of friends had sports on Saturday.”source ↗
“Sundays tend to be better as more kid’s activities are on Saturdays.”source ↗
“I prefer Saturday parties but most of my son’s classmates observe the sabbath on Saturday and we’ve had pushback on Saturday parties since most people couldn’t do Saturday but could do Sunday.”source ↗
“We like to travel for special occasions, and often travel with friends or family (or we host them) so it feels like we're going to have to pick and chose which days to celebrate more if that makes sense, since we can't really travel back to back for birthdays and anniversaries”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
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- 6Can you actually plan a wedding in just a few months?
- 3Family members booking wedding dates without telling you
- 7Is a holiday weekend wedding a bad idea for guests?
- 2Where should we stay on our wedding night?