Family members booking wedding dates without telling you
When close relatives lock in their venue and wedding date without a courtesy heads-up, it leaves you feeling unconsidered and disrespected. This lack of communication happens even when they know you are actively planning your own events, stopping you from feeling supported during your engagement.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
Share your steps and trade-offs so fellow engineers don't have to reinvent the wheel. No account required.
- 1Deciding not to make a fuss or an issue out of itDid this help you?
- 2Telling oneself that the other couple just moves faster and planned differentlyDid this help you?
- 3Trying not to share wedding plans unless asked and a deposit is already put downDid this help you?
- 4Proceeding with the original year anyway since nobody owns an entire calendar yearDid this help you?
- 5Choosing a different month or date within the same yearDid this help you?
- 6Waiting until a subsequent year like 2029Did this help you?
- 7Accepting financial help from parents to move the wedding up to an earlier yearDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I would be little annoyed too not gonna lie. like they knew you have tours next week and still just locked it without even asking.”source ↗
“Today, my fiancé got a text from his brother saying “I know you guys have some tours set up next week, but we locked down our venue and date for XXX”.”source ↗
“I’m upset because it feels inconsiderate.”source ↗
“The main thing for me is that I would’ve appreciated a courtesy “we’ve found our venue, and we’re holding XYZ date” kind of heads up message instead of just informing us that their date is locked in.”source ↗
Where this came up
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