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Family members booking wedding dates without telling you

When close relatives lock in their venue and wedding date without a courtesy heads-up, it leaves you feeling unconsidered and disrespected. This lack of communication happens even when they know you are actively planning your own events, stopping you from feeling supported during your engagement.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    Deciding not to make a fuss or an issue out of it
  2. 2
    Telling oneself that the other couple just moves faster and planned differently
  3. 3
    Trying not to share wedding plans unless asked and a deposit is already put down

In their words

Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.

“I would be little annoyed too not gonna lie. like they knew you have tours next week and still just locked it without even asking.”source ↗

Quirky-Ad7489 · r/weddingplanning · 1 upvotes

“Today, my fiancé got a text from his brother saying “I know you guys have some tours set up next week, but we locked down our venue and date for XXX”.”source ↗

“I’m upset because it feels inconsiderate.”source ↗

“The main thing for me is that I would’ve appreciated a courtesy “we’ve found our venue, and we’re holding XYZ date” kind of heads up message instead of just informing us that their date is locked in.”source ↗

avocadolicious · r/weddingplanning

Where this came up

r/weddingplanningfamily dynamicswedding etiquettewedding planning

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