How to tell demanding parents about bad test grades
Teachers facing an inbox full of demanding parent emails right after a tough test need a quick, clear script that defends rigorous grading standards and explains why a 75% is not a failure. Managing these high-stress parent communications early stops relentless follow-ups and prevents teachers from getting worn down into changing grades.
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+7 alternative community-tested workarounds cataloged below.
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How to tell demanding parents about bad test grades
- 1Entering grades into the online gradebook without averaging them into the final gradeDid this help you?
- 2Sending a mass email explaining the situation to parentsDid this help you?
- 3Reviewing the test and giving the same test as a retake a day later, averaging the two gradesDid this help you?
- 4Explaining grades using analogies like driver's license levelsDid this help you?
- 5Using specific data language such as tracking opportunities with accommodationsDid this help you?
- 6Writing modified grading details directly into the grade book and LMSDid this help you?
- 7Holding face-to-face meetings to build trust and manage expectationsDid this help you?
- 8Expecting parents to check student grade portals (Canvas) for attendance and missing assignmentsDid this help you?
In their words
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“So, if I decide to send emails -- Does anyone have a template on what I should say?”source ↗
“I've been a teacher for five years... The parent just wants the child's grade to be higher and has more than likely learned that annoying the teacher gets them their way.”source ↗
“Some parents think that accommodations are meant to automatically give their child an A, unfortunately. You just have to stand your ground.”source ↗
“If they're used to seeing 95% in 6-8th, they get to 9th and get hit with a 75%, that's a big shock. Their previous grades could've been inflated, your grading might be more rigorous”source ↗
“How do I communicate these grades to parents?”source ↗
“I literally already have parents in my inbox asking about the test - students took it yesterday - so I need to communicate something first thing on Monday.”source ↗
“This is a group of helicopter (is there a formal name for that?) parents I'd like to avoid altogether.”source ↗
“Can anyone help me word that so it makes sense to a parent. I have met these parents before and they really need help understanding how a 75% isn't a failing grade.”source ↗
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