How to handle extreme toddler separation anxiety and tantrums

“my daughter is having a hard time dealing with me leaving.”source ↗

“my oldest is giving me such a hard time. Asking me to stay everyday and do I have to go? And I do feel guilty leaving and have been flip flopping back and forth.”source ↗

“Looking for advice on how to handle this or reassure my 10 year old that everything is going to be ok”source ↗

“Girl age 8 has been a good sleeper all her life. Suddenly, midway through the summer, she began to experience a nightly panic attack.”source ↗

“Every night it goes down like this: - calm bedtime routine same as always - put her to bed - in about 20 min, she will experience serious anxiety. Sweaty palms, elevated heart rate, etc.”source ↗

“Once this happens, one parent has to stay with her. Even being in the room isn't enough - it has to be body to body contact. If we don't do that, it progresses to a full blown panic attack, which then requires her to share a bed with us all night.”source ↗

“It's obviously bad for kiddo because it means she's not sleeping right. But it's also unsustainable for the parents - evenings are our only time to get anything done and bedtime now persists for hours as we navigate this.”source ↗

“My toddler is driving me up the wall with how clingy she’s being. I know it’s a transition period and adjusting to having a new baby in the house but WOW I am exhausted.”source ↗

“Somehow though none of it is enough and my kid is becoming unbearable.”source ↗

“My daughter was an extremely clingy baby, like I had to hold her/have her in a carrier or be within arms length until she was 15 months. It was exhausting.”source ↗

“I’m very nervous about dropping off my child at daycare and leaving for the day.”source ↗

“No one else can even look at her without her screaming (this is not an exaggeration) she has been around my parents 1000’s of times and still if they so much as so touch her arm she will scream until she looks like a cherry tomato.”source ↗

“I can’t even get out of the house because if I sit her in her car seat she will scream the entire trip until she’s back in my arms.”source ↗

“She will not sleep on her own, the second I put her in her pac n play she wakes up and screeches until I pull her out and eventually she falls back asleep after rocking her calm.”source ↗

“I’m not sure what to do I can’t continue on like this, I can’t sleep can’t clean can’t have one meal without her screaming like a banshee.”source ↗

“I’m struggling with this right now with my 2.5 year old. He started daycare for the first time this week. He cries and screams every morning”source ↗

“I dropped him off, gave him kisses told him I’d see him soon and left. I cried a lot hearing him scream for me as I left.”source ↗

“Hes not having it at all, no more then five minutes and hes throwing a thrashing fit and is completely fine when hes picked up.”source ↗

“I kind of need my arms to do things for four other children as you can imagine, so for his entire life we have resorted to a baby wrap which has now given me lasting nerve damage in my neck and back because my baby is a chunk.”source ↗

“He will cry until hes gasping for air, the moment you pick him up its all big smiles and everything's great.”source ↗

“But this is taking a toll on my sanity and ability to care for my house and manage the chronic pain I now have because of this baby wrap shenanigans.”source ↗

“She is now 20 months old and in daycare since she was 13mo. Just a few days back, I left her to meet a friend (usually do this while she is in daycare) and she reacted strangely. She didn’t acknowledge me for 10 or so minutes after I was back”source ↗

“are we spoiling her by being available whenever she is around. Is she being setup for an unrealistic expectation that both sets of parents will be around her at all times?”source ↗

“It now makes dropping her off at her mom’s one big scene when she throws a tantrum and screaming for me.”source ↗

“She’ll ball her eyes out when I leave for work.”source ↗

“And now, she’s having frequent toilet “accidents” at school (TK).”source ↗

“She's recently started throwing a conniption when she's not in the same space as us. If we leave her in her room or playpen to cook dinner or go take a shower she melts down. Scream crying, just a snotty slobbery mess.”source ↗

“We're at an impasse on how to deal with it.”source ↗

“The problem is, he cries a lot when I leave. He keeps screaming "papa papa"and honestly, it breaks my heart. I keep wondering whether we are starting daycare too early.”source ↗