Said It Here

Partner won't help with the puppy and keeps threatening to get rid of him

One partner often carries the vast majority of the daily care and training responsibilities while the other contributes little, shifts blame, and threatens to give the dog away. This stark imbalance leaves the primary caregiver feeling exhausted, isolated, and unsupported, making it difficult to maintain consistent boundaries or enjoy the process of raising the puppy.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    Signing up for puppy training classes independently to learn how to set boundaries.
  2. 2
    Waking the partner up directly and putting the leash in their hand
  3. 3
    Taking over the morning duties entirely to ensure the puppy gets trained correctly
  4. 4
    Placing a grass box on a balcony so the puppy doesn't have to wait to go downstairs

In their words

Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.

“I take care of our puppy 80% if the time.”source ↗

“Well…this is day 2 of potty training and my bf has waited to long to take him out and of course the puppy can’t hold it.”source ↗

“I feel so frustrated, alone, and disrespected. Ugh. I’m so exhausted. Breaking down crying while typing this.”source ↗

Professional-Dig6042 · r/puppy101 · 15 upvotes

“My partner has been struggling with the new puppy who is 4 months old, every few months he will say "Im considering getting rid of him" and tells his parents everything bit says another thing to me, but he barely does anything with him and he doesnt disclose that to his parents, im taking our puppy training next week, I need some advice on training and enforcing boundaries for the puppy”source ↗

PurplexiBlue · r/puppy101 · 2 upvotes

Where this came up

r/puppy101pet carepuppy trainingrelationships

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