Why do administrators reward misbehaving students?
School administrators undermine classroom management by rewarding disruptive students with candy and cupcakes instead of enforcing consequences, leaving teachers to handle extreme behavior entirely on their own. This lack of administrative support forces educators to shoulder unmanageable behavioral burdens while still being blamed for student performance, pushing many to the brink of quitting.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1bringing cupcakes for the rest of the well-behaved students
- 2having the whole class flip the person off to flood the zone
- 3leaving or quitting the school
- 4trying multiple interventions before requesting further assistance
- 5working with unions to establish written behavior flowcharts
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“A student flipped me off today, was sent to the dean…and returned with a cupcake.”source ↗
“were given students that are helpless, disrespectful, and below grade level, yet admin seems to only focus on how teachers need to do more, build relationships, and deal with all their problems on their own”source ↗
“teaching is like being a manager of dozens of employees that you cant fire, but your boss still judges you on their performance”source ↗
“Yep.... I'll never forget the time I finally called for help with 2 misbehaving students. It got so bad that they were yelling curse words at each other (3rd grade). The "dean" pulled them from class, and about 10 minutes later they both returned with candy.”source ↗
“I almost quit that same day. I should've. I don't miss that school at all.”source ↗
“My admin expects me to try X Y and Z before requesting further assistance (except with extreme behavior).”source ↗
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