Is it wrong to have a wedding during a global crisis?
Planning a joyful celebration while heavy world events unfold triggers feelings of guilt and unimportance, leading some people to question trivial details like napkin colors when serious conflicts are happening elsewhere. This internal conflict makes it uncomfortable to celebrate, and it can even cause guests to decline invitations due to safety concerns about traveling during uncertain times.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Reframing celebration as an act of resistance and choosing personal joy despite external events
- 2Reminding themselves that the world has always experienced continuous conflicts and historical generations have married during wartime
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“other brides saying they feel a little silly or uncomfortable planning a wedding while so many serious and scary things are happening in the world.”source ↗
“I’ve definitely had moments of thinking, “Who cares about napkin colors when everyone seems determined to destroy each other?””source ↗
“No, it doesn’t feel good to be worried about dresses and table linens while others are facing terrible things.”source ↗
“Some of my relatives have decided to switch their RSVPs to declined due to what’s going on and they don’t feel safe travelling”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
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- 4Why do I feel guilty for thinking my wedding was better than childbirth?
- 4Why do I have to confess my mistakes at work?
- 3Why do I feel so guilty taking time for myself?
- 4Why do I regret buying a car even though I can afford it?