How to connect with peers who actually understand tech work stress
When managers and mentors are out of reach or unhelpful, remote and specialized technical workers end up completely isolated from people who get their specific challenges. This lack of true peer connection stops professional development in its tracks, tanks confidence, and leaves workers feeling entirely alone in their jobs.
What the numbers show
Counted from the threads quoted below. How we count
- The most recent one is from October 2026.
- This comes up 27.9× more often in r/PropertyManagement than across the site as a whole.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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How to connect with peers who actually understand tech work stress
- 1Searching local subreddits to find peers in the same geographic area.Did this help you?
- 2Speaking up to request recurring meetings and check-insDid this help you?
- 3Switching to industry or boutique firms where engagement is higherDid this help you?
- 4Meditation and resting in the classroom during lunchDid this help you?
- 5Staying in the gym or classroom and avoiding the break roomDid this help you?
- 6Being friendly with everyone while keeping professional boundariesDid this help you?
- 7trying to get feedback from prospects and departing tenants to improve marketing and retentionDid this help you?
- 8focusing on hobbies like gardening, reading, crocheting, or diamond paintingDid this help you?
- 9exercising daily with home workout equipmentDid this help you?
- 10trying to view oneself as a neutral middle man and keeping professional boundariesDid this help you?
- 11Hosting in-person company events and flying employees out to meetDid this help you?
- 12Trying to collaborate and communicate through remote channelsDid this help you?
- 13Going into the office a few days a week to get out of the house or escape distractions.Did this help you?
- 14Setting up a dedicated workspace and strictly adhering to set working hours.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Being by myself in a small office for 8 hours a day, and at least half of my daily interactions are petty or stupid, it’s starting to get to me.”source ↗
“I’ve always said that I love people. This job makes me fucking hate people and their petty ways. I’ve never been good at confrontation and I thought I would get better over time, but it’s gotten worse. I used to get angry and loud, now I shut down and cry.”source ↗
“It often feels like we're just bodies the rich people put between themselves and all the people screwed over by their decisions. I think what frustrates me the most is when tenants direct their righteous fury at me”source ↗
“working solo in property management can be pretty tough and it sounds like you’re overwhelmed.”source ↗
“I feel drained by the time lunch rolls around so I usually just meditate and rest in my classroom.”source ↗
“I don’t really want to know my coworkers and I don’t really care about anything they have to say or talk about.”source ↗
“The last thing I want to do is socialize and listen to the complaining of other teachers.”source ↗
“I feel like a total outcast at work.”source ↗
“I don’t work fully remote, but I do find myself feeling I should be working more when ever i look at it since there feels like no separation of work and home.”source ↗
“I’ve been fully remote for 5 years, since graduation. It’s really good, but if you’re home alone all day… it’s fairly depressing.”source ↗
“I’m the only person in office day to day since my cat prevents me from being productive at any point”source ↗
“Yeah I worked remotely with my wife while at B4 and it was a disaster - personal conflicts bled into work especially with limited space”source ↗
“You basically lose your mind eventually. Or at least I did.”source ↗
“Managers and assigned mentors simply set their Teams to Red/DND, and think quality control feedback emails are sufficient mentorship.”source ↗
“My confidence has nose dived and development stagnated in the 3 firms I've been at whereas I have thrived in industry and Bourque firms, feeling engaged.”source ↗
“I really miss being surrounded by people and being able to talk through things, bounce ideas off each other, etc.”source ↗
“And of course this has arguably been most detrimental to people early in their careers who aren't getting as good of training or networking experiences.”source ↗
“Bottom line is, I think widespread WFH has depersonalized work.”source ↗
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