I laughed at a student's joke and now I've lost authority
When a new teacher breaks down laughing at a student's joke in front of a difficult class, it triggers intense embarrassment and mockery from students who already dislike them. This loss of composure makes it extremely difficult to maintain classroom authority or shake the fear that the incident will permanently damage their reputation.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1bringing the joke back up and giggling to oneself so students lose interest
- 2using self-deprecating humor to beat students to the punch
- 3carrying on as if it never happened with the same expectations
- 4Carrying on with the lesson as if nothing happened
- 5Blaming it on the kids or waiting for them to move on
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“How can I live with the embarrassment?”source ↗
“I'm 25 and I'm a new teacher at this school that is known for being a high school for kids with bad grades.”source ↗
“a student said something so stupid and funny today I laughed so much.”source ↗
“They laughed so much and I was so embarrassed.”source ↗
“One of the boys that probably hates me, started imitating me laughing.”source ↗
“I'm afraid that this is going to stick.”source ↗
Where this came up
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