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Why am I too exhausted and overstimulated to parent?

Heavy workloads and constant financial pressure leave parents with zero bandwidth left over at the end of the day. This extreme burnout and overstimulation makes it impossible to manage children's behavior or parent properly.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

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    relying on screens or iPads to occupy children
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    removing obstacles or over-coddling children
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    blaming generational trends or external factors like covid
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    lowering performance standards and doing the bare minimum to survive
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    telling a trustworthy colleague or administrator early for support and coverage
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    taking sick days to rest
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    packing emergency kits with snacks, water, mints, spare clothes, and emesis bags
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    delegating tasks to students to minimize physical movement
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    napping during lunch breaks
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    Hire a cleaning lady to come once per week
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    Do laundry on weekends
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    Make simple meals
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    Meal planning on Sunday
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    Push through with mental resolve
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    Dating intentionally and discussing tough questions and parenting expectations early on

In their words

Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.

Everything is awful and everyone is burnt out.source ↗

percypersimmon · r/Teachers · 7 upvotes

I’m experiencing it myself.. my partner and I had a great relationship before our son was born, and now we are about to end things.source ↗

dryersheet01 · r/Parenting · 5 upvotes

I just hit 6 weeks pregnant today and the exhaustion/ come and go nausea just continues to get worse.source ↗

I have been teaching for 7 years so I am very familiar with beginning of year exhaustion but this is just to a whole new level.source ↗

I am so nervous about what the next few weeks have in store and how I’m going to cope.source ↗

Tacotunacat · r/Teachers · 4 upvotes

I feel like im failing at parenting now that im working.source ↗

Like I just avoid parenting.source ↗

I just dont have the patience I once had for parenting or house work.source ↗

Key-Significance1876 · r/Parenting · 1 upvotes

I’m so so so burnt out and overstimulated.source ↗

homesickexpat · r/Teachers · 1 upvotes

Everyone has to work, and work SO much now. It is exhausting and people don't have the bandwidth to parent properly anymore.source ↗

ladyfeyrey · r/Teachers · 1 upvotes

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