Older cat still hissing at new kitten after months
Even when cats can peacefully stay together in the same space, lingering hissing, growling, and lunging can persist for months without escalating into true aggression. This behavior often stabilizes into a permanent tolerance rather than a close bond, leaving owners questioning whether the cats are simply a bad match or if normal adjustment is still happening.
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- 1Keeping the cats in separate rooms most of the day3 people mentionedDid this help you?
- 2separating the cats2 people mentionedDid this help you?
- 3Giving the older cat high places and personal space to retreat toDid this help you?
- 4Redirecting the kitten when it gets too annoyingDid this help you?
- 5Using soothing pheromones like FeliwayDid this help you?
- 6Waiting for months or up to a year for them to adjustDid this help you?
- 7Feeding cats on opposite sides of a closed doorDid this help you?
- 8Holding both cats simultaneously to keep them in proximityDid this help you?
- 9Using a temporary cat net or baby gateDid this help you?
- 10Opening the door slightly while blocking it with a heavy objectDid this help you?
- 11Buying more toysDid this help you?
- 12Separating the cats and doing scent swapsDid this help you?
- 13Feeding them on opposite sides of a closed doorDid this help you?
- 14Conducting slow, controlled play sessions with treatsDid this help you?
- 15Using plug-in pheromone diffusersDid this help you?
- 16Giving each cat individual attention and alone timeDid this help you?
- 17Start with scent before face to face meeting by introducing each cat's scent on a piece of clothing separately.Did this help you?
- 18Keep cats completely separated on the same floor for about two weeks.Did this help you?
- 19leaving the younger cat outside during blizzards and hoping to let him in for the winterDid this help you?
- 20considering contacting a shelterDid this help you?
- 21Keep the kitten in a separate spare room with necessities like a litter box, food, water, and bedding when left alone.Did this help you?
- 22Allow the cats to interact only when someone is present to supervise.Did this help you?
- 23Wiping the kittens down with a wet wipe to remove strange clinic smellsDid this help you?
- 24Rubbing hand towels on the kittens and then on the resident cat to transfer and mix scentsDid this help you?
- 25Using short bursts of supervised time togetherDid this help you?
- 26Scent swapping using blanketsDid this help you?
- 27Following the Jackson Galaxy introduction methodDid this help you?
- 28Using a mesh screen divider between roomsDid this help you?
- 29Intervening to redirect the kitten's energy toward toysDid this help you?
- 30Adding cat shelves and escape routes around the cat treeDid this help you?
- 31Allowing the interaction to continue if it appears safeDid this help you?
- 32doing slow scent swapping with towels and room rotationsDid this help you?
- 33using barrier meetings with carriers or partially open doorsDid this help you?
- 34feeding them togetherDid this help you?
- 35using cat pheromone plug-insDid this help you?
- 36giving them time to figure each other outDid this help you?
- 37re-directing the persistent cat to other toys or activitiesDid this help you?
- 38playing more with the energetic catDid this help you?
- 39allowing time and doing separation or isolationDid this help you?
- 40Doing scent swapping with itemsDid this help you?
- 41Allowing the kitten to explore the common spaceDid this help you?
- 42Feeding them with a closed door between themDid this help you?
- 43sending the kitten to stay with a friendDid this help you?
- 44considering rehoming the kittenDid this help you?
- 45Separating the kitten into another room when the older cats get annoyedDid this help you?
- 46Introducing the cats gradually in steps so they get used to the new scentDid this help you?
- 47Trying to manually tire out the hyperactive kitten with playDid this help you?
- 48Giving them more time to figure the hierarchy out naturallyDid this help you?
- 49Keeping them in completely separate rooms initiallyDid this help you?
- 50Scent swapping blankets before face-to-face meetingsDid this help you?
- 51Using snacks and food as positive reinforcementDid this help you?
- 52Letting them sort it out without micromanaging interactionsDid this help you?
- 53Playing with the cats at a visual distance to build positive associationsDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“My Persian kitten (6 months, female) seemed really lonely, so I decided to adopt another kitten.”source ↗
“she and my Persian are NOT getting along at all. They keep fighting.”source ↗
“My Persian has changed a lot. She never really liked being touched or picked up, but she used to play with us, run around, and be really active. Now she mostly just sits there and eats. She seems genuinely upset and withdrawn.”source ↗
“It’s been about 4 weeks and I really thought they would eventually bond or at least tolerate each other by now.”source ↗
“Lily, however, is terrified of him. She hisses at me if she smells him on me.”source ↗
“I let him in twice and both times it took her 3 days to get over seeing him asleep in her home.. she hides, growls, stops eating. The first time she actually lunged at him to attack.”source ↗
“My apartment doesn't allow me to change stuff and I can't really buy a screen door or something like that at the moment, I have the cage but I feel bad putting one of them into the cage to show them to each other.”source ↗
“Older cat still hissing/growling at kitten after 2+ months – but they can also peacefully stay together. Will this improve?”source ↗
“I’m not sure if what I’m seeing is still normal or if these two just aren’t a good match.”source ↗
“His dilute calico girl HATES my black and white boy. So of course, she is the ONLY one he wants to play with.”source ↗
“But he will chase her, roll over around her, meow constantly at her - and she is just not having it. Why, oh why does he ONLY want to engage with the one that detests him?? 😭”source ↗
“I’m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions. Should we wait for his hissing to stop? What else can we do to make him more comfortable?”source ↗
“Whenever he sees the new kitten, he runs away or hisses and runs away to hide... while the kitten doesn't seem that bothered by his presence.”source ↗
“I honestly didn't expect him to react this way, I hope that with slow , gradual exposure he'll get used to her being here....”source ↗
“Any advice how to my silly boy so he's not scared of the little baby?”source ↗
“The play itself doesn’t look aggressive but the noises Luna makes are what bother me. Is she mouthy or is she annoyed and we need to intervene?”source ↗
“i don’t know where to go from here and i really want them to get along soon so they can both be out playing! :(”source ↗
“Olive the OG cat (4yrs) continues to hiss even while they play. She's not bitched up in any way- coat is flat, ears are up, tail is playful. She rarely hissed before he came into the house. Has anyone encountered this before? Is this just the way it is now?”source ↗
“We have been feeding them together for about two weeks and there’s no real improvement on her demeanor. She generally hisses and growls at him then leaves”source ↗
“she hates him going near it and seems to resource guard it by sitting in front of it and hissing at him.”source ↗
“What else can we be doing or do differently to encourage her to accept him?”source ↗
“My wife and I brought home a kitten a couple months ago and our two cats won't stop fighting with him.”source ↗
“The kitten is hyperactive so he constantly wants to play and despite our best efforts we can't tire him out and he'll take his energy out on the other cats who want nothing to do with him.”source ↗
“They fight and hiss at him multiple times a day, not sure what options we have to help calm everyone down.”source ↗
“I have no idea how to do this and neither does my dad.”source ↗
“I'm dealing with this currently with my tuxie boy and pastel calico. She absolutely detests him and unfortunately he goes near her wanting to play and she's not having it.”source ↗
“Any interaction between them ends up in fur flying, hissing, growling, and he doesnt understand her language - she doesnt understand his.”source ↗
“Last week it all came to a head - baby C’s mouth was wonky af and i took her to the vet. She had lost a canine and was very swollen.”source ↗
“I feel like such a terrible mother for both of them but i can also see that my baby C is not thriving with the kitten, at all.”source ↗
“My boyfriend’s cat is the same way. When I moved in with my cat, she HATED him. still does, but she can tolerate his presence.”source ↗
“I bought the kittens back home from the vet and now my 6 year old cat is being very aggressive and mean to the kittens.”source ↗
“My older cat is even lashing out at us. Any advice?”source ↗
“I bring her downstairs when during the day but he avoids her like a plague.”source ↗
“I'm just surprised that the boy feels intimidated by a creature ten times smaller than him!”source ↗
“That kitten is not listening to Lunas vocalizations to leave her alone. She does not want to play , and that kitten is going to keep harassing her if you don't redirect her or tired her out with playing with something that isn't your cat who just wants to be left alone.”source ↗
“Luna is literally backed into a corner with her only escape route being blocked by a kitten who is not regarding her growling clearly in displeasure”source ↗
“if i let them out at the same time they just fight each other ! it’s making me so sad :(”source ↗
“I was told to keep the new one in a separate room but she was meowing the whole time so I left the door open.”source ↗
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