Said It Here

Regretting wedding planning long before the date

Planning a wedding can quickly become overwhelming, causing couples to lose the desire to go through with it and regret their commitments months in advance. The sheer stress of managing details like flowers and cakes, combined with the sickening feeling of spending large amounts of money on a single day, leaves individuals feeling trapped and anxious about social expectations.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    considering canceling the wedding despite social pressure
  2. 2
    canceling vendors
  3. 3
    considering not getting a photographer at all
  4. 4
    do my own hair and makeup
  5. 5
    do not want a dj
  6. 6
    got a dress on sale for 1000 euros

In their words

Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.

r/weddingplanning2 people · September 2026

“I regret my wedding 14 months before it”source ↗

“I have a long context of why I would like to cancel my own wedding.”source ↗

“I really don’t feel like doing it anymore, and I am the bride.”source ↗

Spritezinhah96 · r/weddingplanning · 6 upvotes

“Overwhelmed and regretting planning a (supposedly small!) wedding..”source ↗

“Knowing that our wedding will cost maybe 15000 in total makes me kind of sick, not because we don't have the money, but it just seems like too much for one day.”source ↗

“We still need flowers and a wedding cake i feel so overwhelmed.”source ↗

Altruistic_Sugar_289 · r/weddingplanning · 2 upvotes

Where this came up

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