How to soothe a toddler after taking away the pacifier
Taking away a pacifier cold turkey often leads to multiple night wakings, crying spells, and a sudden reliance on rocking for sleep. Parents also deal with intense guilt and worry about whether the soothing behavior or weaning process will cause long-term distress.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Rocking the toddler back to sleep multiple times during the night
- 2Persisting through the adjustment period and letting the child learn to self-soothe
- 3Introducing a new comfort item like a blanket or a stuffed animal
- 4Waiting until the child is older (18 months to 3 years old) to naturally reduce or stop use
- 5Restricting pacifier use strictly to naps, bedtime, car rides, or the crib
- 6Snipping the tip of the pacifier and having the child help throw it away when broken
- 7Cold turkey removal once the child is older and better able to understand
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I had no idea it was okay to wait that long to wean, I appreciate this”source ↗
“at 18m one night she was up like 6 times crying because she was intentionally dropping her pacis out of the crib and then upset they were all gone.”source ↗
“We’ve cold turkey taken away her dummy and she’s really struggling through the night. She gets to sleep by rocking which we haven’t had to do in months and then wakes up crying multiple times having to be rocked.”source ↗
“Im so tempted to show her her thumb exists even though i know that sounds terrible 😅”source ↗
“She is very attached to her pacifier for comfort and will sometimes cry just for the pacifier. I know this is normal but im worried about the mom guilt eating at me if that behavior continues during the weaning process.”source ↗
Where this came up
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