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How to help a seven-year-old with sleep anxiety

Children with sleep anxiety often become dependent on physical touch and night-time bed-sharing, unable to fall asleep by themselves. This constant bedtime struggle leaves parents exhausted and at a loss for how to build independent sleep habits.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

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    Using weighted plushies
  2. 2
    Making DIY weighted stuffed animals with weighted beads
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    Using breathing motion plushies with soft music
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    Using warmable weighted stuffed animals
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    lying down with the child until they fall asleep
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    letting the child sleep in the parents' bed out of exhaustion
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    trying an okay-to-wake clock and a reward jar
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    sneaking away under the guise of letting the dog out or going to the bathroom
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    consistently walking the child back to their own room multiple times throughout the night

In their words

Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.

r/Parenting2 people · September 2026

“Ever since then, he cannot go to sleep by himself, and as he’s gotten older he seems to have a ton of anxiety surrounding sleep in general.”source ↗

“every single night he comes into our bed, needs to be as close to me as physically possible, hand on my face, touching my face.”source ↗

“he just has so much anxiety surrounding sleep and I am at a complete loss of what to do. It’s effecting my sleep very much now”source ↗

dka1194 · r/Parenting · 2 upvotes

“Hello, my 7yo is having a hard time falling asleep lately.”source ↗

sandiasinpepitas · r/Parenting · 1 upvotes

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