How to survive career fairs when you hate fake networking
Attending career fairs often feels like it requires putting on a fake personality, making conversations with recruiters and experienced professionals highly anxiety-inducing. This pressure to perform turns recruiting into a drag, leaving introverts wondering if they can even build a successful career without participating in interactions they hate.
What people tried
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How to survive career fairs when you hate fake networking
- 1Trying to fake it until you make itDid this help you?
- 2Asking simpler, more genuine questions about training or career progression instead of reciting corporate talking pointsDid this help you?
- 3Choosing career paths or specializations perceived to be more welcoming to introverts (such as tax)Did this help you?
- 4Reframing networking as simply making friends who work in the same industry.Did this help you?
- 5Focusing on just being friendly and not exhausting to work with instead of making empty small talk.Did this help you?
- 6Making an effort to know just a few people in classes or small events rather than trying to be the life of the party.Did this help you?
- 7Working twice as hard on technical skills to make up for a lack of visibility.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Can u make a decent paid career in accounting without all the fake bs (thats all it is to me anyway I dont rly care as long as I get paid, thats all a job is to me) but the thought of having to spend years of my life talking to a bunch of ppl idc about will make me hate life”source ↗
“i'm a nervous wreck when talking to people older/more experienced than me, and overall, i'm a hyper-introvert and i hate "fake" conversations with recruiters.”source ↗
“had my first career fair as an accounting major a couple of weeks ago. admittedly, i could have prepared better... but i tried my best to be professional, nice, and ask meaningful questions.”source ↗
“i'm aware that networking with employees/representatives at firms is a huge part of recruiting for accounting... but it is a drag to put on a fake personality for work.”source ↗
“I’m an introvert and have been working in public accounting for several years. Networking is difficult for me for exactly the same reasons you described.”source ↗
“Take this from an introvert who loves alone time and hates fake performative things, never been to a club or partied and hates massive social gatherings.”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
- 2Is it okay to skip a networking event if I'm not prepared?
- 2Why is networking so awkward and hard to talk about?
- 4How do you actually build a professional network from scratch?
- 3Why am I getting ghosted after great career fair chats?
- 3Do I need a profile picture on Microsoft Teams?
- 5Finding professionals to interview for a class project without connections