Toddler suddenly refuses usual babysitter and acts out
A child can suddenly become reactive, unkind, and refuse to let a long-time afternoon caregiver come over. This leaves parents feeling completely at a loss, overwhelmed by daily tantrums, and anxious that others might misjudge their parenting.
Core Friction Pattern
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+10 alternative community-tested workarounds cataloged below.
What people tried
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Toddler suddenly refuses usual babysitter and acts out
- 1Talking to the child about unkind behavior and needing quiet after schoolDid this help you?
- 2Texting the babysitter to apologize and ask for ideas on how to helpDid this help you?
- 3Not spankingDid this help you?
- 4Using timeoutsDid this help you?
- 5Gentle talkingDid this help you?
- 6DisengagingDid this help you?
- 7Carrying her out kicking and screaming while getting the baby sibling in the carDid this help you?
- 8Closing the office door and putting up a baby gate.Did this help you?
- 9Doing a fake goodbye at the front door and sneaking back into the house.Did this help you?
- 10Having the sitter take the child out of the house for snacks and to the park.Did this help you?
- 11Working out of the house for a week to remove the parent as an option.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“When our son was 2 we had a sitter a couple afternoons a week, and on the days my wife worked from home he'd stand outside her door and yell the whole time.”source ↗
“I am genuinely at a loss here and would love some input. We have had the same afternoon sitter (not a pro nanny, she’s good with him but doesn’t have a childcare background to manage this) for 2 years now and within the last couple weeks my son has just decided he doesn’t want her to come and is really reactive about it.”source ↗
“But since I work from home my toddler only wants me. He will scream in my babysitters face and run towards me.”source ↗
“He wont even let her help him go to the potty.”source ↗
“I have a 3.5 year old that almost seems to hate me. She is my oldest and doesn’t like me to touch her, play with her, cuddle her etc.”source ↗
“He gets Friday-Sunday off and when he goes back to work on Monday she throws these crazy tantrums all day. Hitting me kicking me throwing things at me.”source ↗
“I just don’t know what to do with her anymore.”source ↗
“I’m scared people are going to start thinking I’m abusive to her with this strong reaction.”source ↗
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