Why does my toddler refuse to eat anything I cook?
Toddlers suddenly reject home-cooked meals and hand their plates back full, leaving parents feeling miserable when mealtimes become a battle. This makes it impossible to rely on regular meal routines and leaves children eating only a very limited selection of foods.
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What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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- 1Turning eating into a silly game where eating food makes a parent do funny actionsDid this help you?
- 2Switching snacks to be more meal-like or eliminating snacks entirelyDid this help you?
- 3Serving smaller portions according to the child's ageDid this help you?
- 4Blending vegetables like broccoli and spinach into pasta sauceDid this help you?
- 5Ask the child to help get ingredients out and direct the processDid this help you?
- 6Let the child do pretty much everything themselvesDid this help you?
- 7giving him a multivitaminDid this help you?
- 8incorporating fast food favorites like taco bell or kfc into healthier mealsDid this help you?
- 9trying rotisserie chickenDid this help you?
- 10Offering a snack right after the child gets off the bus or home from schoolDid this help you?
- 11Checking cafeteria purchase apps or messaging the teacher to keep an eye outDid this help you?
- 12Packing small portions and simple foodsDid this help you?
- 13Letting the child work on lunch leftovers at homeDid this help you?
- 14Giving liquid calories like chocolate milk, orange juice, or yogurt drinksDid this help you?
- 15Making smoothies with fruit, yogurt, milk, and protein powderDid this help you?
- 16Serving dinner foods or snacks instead of traditional breakfast itemsDid this help you?
- 17Offering small, portable, or vehicle-friendly breakfast itemsDid this help you?
- 18Allowing the child to go hungry to learn natural consequencesDid this help you?
- 19Trying to get him to eat different foodsDid this help you?
- 20Offering watered down juice or cordialDid this help you?
- 21Stopping buying junk drinks and foodDid this help you?
- 22Trying to make water the only optionDid this help you?
- 23Constantly reminding the child to chewDid this help you?
- 24Setting a visual timer to limit meal durationDid this help you?
- 25blending steamed vegetables into spaghetti sauceDid this help you?
- 26making hidden veggie chocolate or banana spinach muffinsDid this help you?
- 27preparing chicken and veggie tots or burgersDid this help you?
- 28adding vegetables and cheese into egg muffinsDid this help you?
- 29Continuing to offer a variety of foods and trusting that the child will eventually eatDid this help you?
- 30Maintaining routine family dinner time rules like sitting at the tableDid this help you?
- 31Rotating available fruits rather than giving preferred items every time they are requestedDid this help you?
- 32Giving snacks like frozen Eggos, breakfast corndogs, goldfish, cookies, and chipsDid this help you?
- 33Offering applesauce pouches to get fruits and veggies inDid this help you?
- 34Trying to make feeding fun with the airplane motion or sneaking bites while he laughsDid this help you?
- 35Partner giving the baby dessert like cookies when they want to eatDid this help you?
- 36continuing to spoon-feed the toddler to ensure nutrition and save timeDid this help you?
- 37using constant distraction and engagement during mealsDid this help you?
- 38going cold turkey and letting the child go hungry until they eatDid this help you?
- 39modeling behavior by eating the same food and guiding their hand on the utensilDid this help you?
- 40feeding children a snack prior to family dinnersDid this help you?
- 41using a 3-bite rule to encourage trying foodDid this help you?
- 42telling children they do not have to explain their eating choices and saying 'no thank you'Did this help you?
- 43Always serving at least one 'safe' or preferred food alongside new items on the plate.Did this help you?
- 44Implementing a 'bite rule' (e.g., 3 or 4 bites) that must be completed before getting more of a preferred food.Did this help you?
- 45Removing the plate if they refuse to eat and offering it again later when they are hungrier, with no snacking in between.Did this help you?
- 46Allowing only 'boring' snacks like baby carrots or apples outside of mealtimes.Did this help you?
- 47constantly encouraging the child to eatDid this help you?
- 48offering treats like ice cream or chocolateDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“3y/o: No I wanted a grilled ham and cheese.”source ↗
“He doesn't eat and than goes to school and gets hungry before snack starts and one time the teacher emailed me saying he needs breakfast.”source ↗
“We talk about what he will eat ahead of time and he'll say what he wants and than doesn't eat it lol he says he's just not hungry.”source ↗
“I'm at a loss here.”source ↗
“this is NOT good.”source ↗
“this is making my belly sick. I don’t want to eat it.”source ↗
“since turning three it’s been a down hill slop of him refusing more and more things on the daily”source ↗
“So my 5 year old son always (literally every single bite) forgets he's chewing after he takes a bite of food.”source ↗
“I have to constantly tell him to chew his food until both him and I are so irritated with eachother.”source ↗
“We have tried setting a visual timer and just being done eating after 35 minutes but he panics and shuts down and won't touch any food as soon as the timer starts.”source ↗
“My son is 22 months, and has officially hit the “picky” stage of toddlerhood. As a baby he ate whatever we put in front of him, and while he eats most to all of what they offer at daycare, he often refuses dinner at home.”source ↗
“If I try to get him to take a bite of one of the other items, he freaks out until I give him more of the item he asked for.”source ↗
“I feel like what I’m doing is creating a precedent that if he freaks out or refuses something then I will get him something else, which I am not a fan of. But do you just let your kid go hungry if they won’t eat what you made for dinner?”source ↗
“How do I not fall into the trap of teaching him that fits will get him what he wants, without denying him food and making him go hungry?”source ↗
“Okay, we’ve reached the point where my girl is handing her plate back full, no matter what I cook.”source ↗
“My 4 year old just started UPK4. Up until school started, she had stayed home with me.”source ↗
“On the days I send in lunch, she has barely touched her snack and lunch. I have no idea what she eats when she gets a school lunch. Should I be worried?”source ↗
“I just need help to get him to eat more.”source ↗
“I just want my kid to eat more and i am lost.”source ↗
“Anybody else's kids have little to no interest in food? My 3.5yo daughter has just never really been fussed about it. Never runs to the table at mealtimes, always needs encouragement. Can't think of a single thing I could cook that she'd be guaranteed to eat (not even the usual suspects pasta, chips, beans etc).”source ↗
“The severity comes in waves, but during worse spells she has noticeably lower energy, and this can last months.”source ↗
“One out of my three kids was incredibly picky as a toddler/child.”source ↗
“God it’s so miserable when they won’t eat.”source ↗
“I used to just give my kid a glass of chocolate milk. He’s not much of a breakfast person but that held him over a little.”source ↗
“My son also refuses breakfast half the time but will happily eat a meal's worth of snacks on the way to daycare”source ↗
“He hates water with everything in him.”source ↗
“My 4.5yo is very picky and always has been - was never interested in food from the moment we started solids. We just keep offering and hope that one day he’ll eat more things besides very specific white carbs, 2 kinds of fruit, and cashews.”source ↗
“So I feel like such a failure as a mom just writing this, but my 15 month old refuses to eat anything really other than junk food!”source ↗
“He throws himself back in the floor if I offer him something else, even making it fun with the airplane.”source ↗
“I'll sit him in his little chair with a tray & all he does is throw everything in the floor 🙃 I just don't know what to do anymore”source ↗
“Kinda in the same boat. Im 33 weeks and just started trying to get my 2 year old to spoon feed himself.”source ↗
“My S-son is 12 and he just doesn't pee much.”source ↗
“He's always constipated.”source ↗
“It takes him like 30 mins to go to the bathroom.”source ↗
“He also doesn't eat much, is a picky eater and the only thing he likes to drink is mountain dew, sweet tea and occasionally chocolate milk.”source ↗
“Our 20 month son has gradually become so picky that it's becoming impossible for us.”source ↗
“At home, he just says strawberries. Doesnt want to try other things.”source ↗
“My 2.5 year old has been exclusively spoon fed till now. He will hand pick food from his plate off and on but only eat a small amount of it. Feeding him can take up to an hour and requires constant distraction and engagement.”source ↗
“I tried going cold turkey yesterday and asked him to eat his meals on his own. He ended up eating very very little and insisted we feed him.”source ↗
“I'm in my third trimester and worried that this isn't the right time to transition my little guy to eating independently... But I am worried that when baby 2 arrives, I will go mental trying to feed both!”source ↗
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