What to do if your wedding photographer is rude or unresponsive
Some photographers get snippy, complain that poses look wrong without offering direction, or simply stop answering emails. This lack of communication makes couples feel like they are being ghosted or wasting their time, causing intense stress even while on vacation.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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- 1trying to keep positive and ignore the negative remarksDid this help you?
- 2bringing up inspo photos to guide poses independentlyDid this help you?
- 3planning to provide feedback and ask how disruptions will be handled on the wedding dayDid this help you?
- 4Abandoning the desired venue to book somewhere elseDid this help you?
- 5Planning to confront the vendor in person at a bridal expoDid this help you?
- 6Accepting the venue's policies of booking before doing a tastingDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“My fiancé and I also started to get a bit put off if the photographers weren’t liking their shots/our poses, they’d just say things like “Forget it! Nothing is working!” or “No that just looks all wrong” without trying to offer more direction or pose us.”source ↗
“Getting snippy with or around you is not professional where I am from”source ↗
“I email her again October 17th (while I am on vacation because this is all I can think about), no response. Does this woman hate me? Has she ghosted me?”source ↗
“Yeah it’s starting to feel like I’m wasting my time and the lack of communication is something I don’t want.”source ↗
“Venues generally only do tastings after bookings (I also think this is insanely dumb.)”source ↗
Where this came up
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