Why do I change my mind every day about having kids?
Oscillating daily between wanting children and feeling like it is a terrible idea leaves people stuck in indecision. This constant back-and-forth makes it impossible to reach a definitive choice about family size or moving forward with a second child.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Asking parents for their perspective on the best parts of having children
- 2Waiting for years to see if the hesitant partner changes their mind
- 3Postponing the decision while weighing the potential risks of aging and lost time
- 4Discussing the dilemma with online parenting forums or considering therapy
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I change my mind every day on whether to have kids or not. One day am all in, the next day it seems like the worst idea ever.”source ↗
“Basically he’d rather be one and done and I’m still wanting a second.”source ↗
“He feels like he’s aged a lot with the first.”source ↗
“I can accept only having one but every time I imagine not having a second, I feel sad.”source ↗
“I want one more, but I feel like time is not on my side.”source ↗