Is it rude to not invite someone who didn't invite you to their wedding?
Deciding whether to invite someone who snubbed you or left you off their guest list often leaves people feeling hurt and conflicted about etiquette. Navigating this awkward dynamic creates tension when trying to determine if social obligations still apply to past wedding guests or acquaintances who didn't return the favor.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
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- 1Not inviting the person and ignoring complaints from mutual friends or familyDid this help you?
- 2RSVPing no to their wedding out of disrespect for lack of a plus-oneDid this help you?
- 3Cutting off contact with people who exclude partnersDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Not a direct analogue, but I had a friend who came to my wedding who then didn’t invite me to hers a year later. I was super hurt.”source ↗
“Is it rude to not invite someone who didn’t invite me to their wedding?”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
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- 5Do I have to give a plus-one to a guest with a toxic partner?
- 6Should I invite a couple if they only invited my fiancé?
- 5How to uninvite someone after sending a save the date
- 10What to do when the wedding party leaves you out
- 10Friends giving terrible excuses to skip my wedding