Is it rude to not invite someone who didn't invite you to their wedding?
Deciding whether to invite someone who snubbed you or left you off their guest list often leaves people feeling hurt and conflicted about etiquette. Navigating this awkward dynamic creates tension when trying to determine if social obligations still apply to past wedding guests or acquaintances who didn't return the favor.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Not inviting the person and ignoring complaints from mutual friends or family
- 2RSVPing no to their wedding out of disrespect for lack of a plus-one
- 3Cutting off contact with people who exclude partners
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Not a direct analogue, but I had a friend who came to my wedding who then didn’t invite me to hers a year later. I was super hurt.”source ↗
OneConversation4 · r/weddingplanning · 1 upvotes
“Is it rude to not invite someone who didn’t invite me to their wedding?”source ↗
Dry_Attitude_7205 · r/weddingplanning
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
- 2Do I have to give a plus-one to a guest with a toxic partner?
- 7Friends giving terrible excuses to skip my wedding
- 4What to do when your best friend won't come to your wedding
- 2How to handle wedding invites when you've drifted apart
- 4Why don't friends care about my wedding as much as I cared about theirs?
- 4Why do prospects go quiet after asking for pricing or portfolios?