Said It Here

Do I have to give a plus-one to a guest with a toxic partner?

Inviting a guest whose partner committed a past betrayal puts you in a bind, because withholding their plus-one makes the slight glaringly obvious on the wedding day. This leaves you choosing between risking intense awkwardness at the event or alienating the friendship entirely if they refuse to attend without their partner.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    Not inviting either person to avoid drama
  2. 2
    Inviting both people and letting the bridesmaid handle it
  3. 3
    Dropping the plus-one policy for this specific guest

In their words

Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.

“If you are giving everyone else a plus one it will become exceedingly obvious on the day of the wedding and you risk completely alienating the relationship for yourself”source ↗

egnards · r/weddingplanning · 1 upvotes

“Is it really bad if he doesn’t get a plus one? (Literally every one else has one)”source ↗

“He said he might not come if she isn’t invited, which ultimately i understand.”source ↗

coolerthanaverage · r/weddingplanning

Where this came up

r/weddingplanningguest listrelationshipswedding planning

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