Who to invite to a micro wedding
Because the guest list is so small, every invitation feels highly significant. This makes it difficult to know if you are inviting old friends out of obligation just to have people on your side, even when you have naturally drifted apart. It also creates confusion around vendor etiquette, such as whether a ceremony musician requires an invitation to the reception.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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Who to invite to a micro wedding
- 1Ask yourself if you would buy these people dinner on a regular occasion.Did this help you?
- 2Reframe the invitation as honoring a past version of yourself who loved them, rather than an obligation to reconnect.Did this help you?
- 3Distinguishing between vendors with a pre-existing social relationship (who get invited) and paid strangers (who don't).Did this help you?
- 4Providing a vendor meal if they are working through the reception, rather than inviting them as a guest.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I’m planning a micro wedding for December next year, and I’m struggling with who to invite.”source ↗
“Another part of me wonders whether I’m inviting them out of obligation or because I’m holding onto a friendship and connection that has naturally drifted apart.”source ↗
“I also have such a small guest list that every invitation feels quite significant, but I also don’t want to have no one there from my side !”source ↗
“I've seen that I need to invite the officiant to the reception even if they're likely to decline, but what about a musician playing at the ceremony? I want to have a harpist play the ceremony but should I invite her to the reception as well?”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
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