Why do recruiters ghost and waste time during a job search?
Job seekers face unprofessional behavior like ghosting after weeks of preparation, unfulfilled outreach, and insulting demands such as working interviews for senior roles. This constant silence and lack of follow-through leaves candidates feeling ignored and makes the hiring process feel like screaming into the void.
What people tried
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Why do recruiters ghost and waste time during a job search?
- 1declining working interviewsDid this help you?
- 2offering a 4-day coverage arrangementDid this help you?
- 3pivoting to recruiting or building a coaching businessDid this help you?
- 4Ask recruiters for a specific role, salary range, and hiring timeline before sharing updated details.Did this help you?
- 5Block recruitment agencies aggressively and route all hiring through internal company HR departments.Did this help you?
- 6Using shortened or alternative names on resumesDid this help you?
- 7Applying multiple times with different demographic selectionsDid this help you?
- 8Using throwaway accounts to discuss experiences anonymouslyDid this help you?
- 9trying to maintain composure and keep a friendly demeanor under pressureDid this help you?
- 10masking personal struggles or mental health challenges in the workplaceDid this help you?
- 11giving polished, positive answers instead of disclosing past performance issues or burnoutDid this help you?
- 12Losing weight, investing in skincare, and dressing well to try and fit standardsDid this help you?
- 13Targeting back-office or non-client-facing roles where work is judged independently (design, data, writing, ops)Did this help you?
- 14Developing a magnetic personality to compensate for appearanceDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“That controller sounds like she gets off on breaking people down. Asking if you even want to be there five minutes in, then telling you you'll never succeed? That's not mentorship, that's just being a prick who never learned how to talk to humans.”source ↗
“At some point I was told: "You will never be successful as an accountant." That honestly threw me off really bad.”source ↗
“Early in the interview, the controller asked me, "Do you even want to be here?" and later asked, "Does this even sound like a position you'd be interested in?" I was genuinely confused and honestly kind of scared in that moment.”source ↗
“I declined that as I find it insulting and offensive.”source ↗
“the ghosting after interviews is the worst part though. spent months tailoring resumes and prepping just to get silence. feels like screaming into the void most days”source ↗
“I've had this issue with my name before. No issues with a shortened form, rarely get picked with my full legal name.”source ↗
“I’m trying to warn other people who may be struggling or going through the same racist bullshit.”source ↗
“I was disappointed, but not surprised with how the job market is, but out of sheer curiosity I changed ONE single thing… my race/ethnicity.”source ↗
“Has anyone had good experience with Anderson Frank and actually got hired? Based on my experience, they just keep on asking for my experience/info every other year or so and then nothing. I maybe just got 1 interview within 10 years”source ↗
“Yeah I got approached by them but it was just sone kid scouting for them and it was not very professional and nothing became of it.”source ↗
“Despite being a very successful student and having dozens of professional-quality projects in my portfolio, I kept getting rejected. The reason? "We can't put you in front of clients."”source ↗
“I dress well, I take care of myself, but my face simply doesn't fit society's beauty standards. And because of that, employers don't even seem willing to give me a chance.”source ↗
“I don't know how to come to terms with the fact that something I have so little control over could end up limiting my career and my future.”source ↗
Where this came up
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- 2How to deal with the awkwardness of volunteering after a job rejection
- 9Is leaving a job after one year too early?