Is it okay to ask bridesmaids over text?
Elaborate bridesmaid proposals online make brides feel guilty for simply sending a text. These over-the-top expectations add unnecessary pressure to the already high cost of a wedding, leaving people shocked at the added expense. Instead of buying costly gifts, you can ask your friends with a heartfelt letter.
What people tried
3 itemsEvery workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1sending a text messageDid this help you?
- 2starting a group chatDid this help you?
- 3writing a heartfelt letter instead of buying giftsDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I feel bad now, all I did was send a text 😂”source ↗
“Same. I’m sitting here thinking, “what in the actual…” 😂”source ↗
“That's what came to my mind! Along with the wedding cost, oof! I'm going with a heartfelt letter to my girls.”source ↗
Where this came up
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- 3Why are there hidden fees and surprise charges on wedding services?
- 15Why are weddings so ridiculously expensive?