Said It Here

How to get a one-person cat to bond with kids

Cats that bond exclusively with a single family member often ignore children entirely, leaving kids left out of the affection. This dynamic prevents children from experiencing the companionship they want and makes it difficult for families to share in the pet's affection.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    Having kids feed the cat, play with her, and give her treats
  2. 2
    Getting two additional kittens so the kids can raise them
  3. 3
    Waiting for the cat and kids to get older
  4. 4
    trying to act cool around them
  5. 5
    ignoring the cat because they give attention when you do not want it

In their words

Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.

r/cats3 people · September 2026

“How do you guys make your cats obsessed with you? 😂 I always have to beg my cat to sleep with me.”source ↗

summer_543 · r/cats · 8 upvotes

“We have a cat who is very affectionate, but basically only with me.”source ↗

“The problem is that we have kids, and I’d really love for them to get some of that same affection from her.”source ↗

“Has anyone successfully gotten a “one-person cat” to bond more strongly with other members of the family?”source ↗

TheeDudeness · r/cats · 6 upvotes

“same… like i feel most of the times i beg him to come with me and he does for a while but man when i see some videos i can only wish😭”source ↗

gemmasanchez · r/cats · 2 upvotes

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