“I have a 3 year old and they only want to wear one specific dress right now. It’s getting cold out, and we are struggling to get them to wear pants underneath. It has become a huge battle every morning trying to get big sibling to school on time. They also refuse coats, warm shoes, gloves, etc.”source ↗

“I tried leggings, and that worked for a couple days, now they refuse leggings as well.”source ↗

“We are also struggling hard with bedtime and not being able to get them to cooperate getting Jammie’s on and etc. 😭 but the morning/going places routine is more of a concern.”source ↗

“This child seems to do this a lot in general…she always asks permission for things. She says she doesn’t know how to do things.”source ↗

“Every single morning before school we have the same exact routine and rules. [...] Same routine every day for multiple years now, yet every single morning (unfortunately that’s not an exaggeration, I mean literally every single day) she doesn’t know what to do.”source ↗

“Why does she ask my permission for so many things that don’t require my permission? I love her so much and I am also exhausted with it all.”source ↗

“My son is 11 and I'm still telling him every single morning to pack his bag, feed the cat, bring his cleats. If I don't say it, it literally does not happen, and then it's somehow my fault the cat's hungry.”source ↗

“He never practices. He goes to lessons once a week but that’s it. I encourage him to practice but he says it’s too hard or makes up an excuse.”source ↗

“Should I be pushing him to practice? I feel like a 30 minute lesson a week isn’t enough and it’s kind of expensive.”source ↗

“The problem is, she absolutely refuses to do them for me.”source ↗

“The more I push, the harder she pushes back, and everything becomes a power struggle.”source ↗

“I cannot have him do anything without me being 'over top' of him to make sure he's doing it.”source ↗

“I'm just stumped on how to get him motivated to be more mature because if I wasn't on top of him for literally everything, nothing would ever get done”source ↗

“When can I expect that this will be more of a chore thing than a chores as hobby thing?”source ↗

“I’m getting pretty tired of playing referee for my 7 year old son and his dad.”source ↗

“My partner will go on long winded rants, argue back and forth, over explaining everything, its overwhelming to witness”source ↗

“I’m tired of the petty drama and feeling like I’m the only adult in the room.”source ↗

“This seems to be a nightly battle in a lot of households, so I'm curious what's actually worked for you.”source ↗

“He does not tie his own shoes, he does not make his own food/snacks (not even the easiest of things Like a very basic sandwich or a bag of popcorn or something).”source ↗

“He will not even brush his teeth without me constantly pressuring him to and pretty much putting the toothpaste on the brush for him and sticking it in his mouth.”source ↗

“When I try to teach him these things it ends with big emotions on his part And him saying he can’t do them.”source ↗

“So my guess is even he ends up loving doing chores (does anyone tho? lol) he will likely go through a “no period”. Bc developmentally, that’s expected.”source ↗

“When they start to see them as being used as a punishment instead of the feeling of helping or being in a family/community.”source ↗

“When I was a kid, I forgot my tennis racket and begged my mom to leave work to bring me it. We didn’t have any money so she couldn’t, I missed 2 practices because of not having my racket and I never forgot it again in the 10 years I played tennis.”source ↗

“Our oldest is about to be 30. What worked for us was not relying on memory, but routine. You mentioned cleats, and sports gear was a really big one with us.”source ↗

“I have a 20 month old son... the difficulty comes more from him learning how his mouth works - trying to suck or chew on the toothbrush, not understanding how to move his tongue out of the way, etc.....things like that make the process hard.”source ↗

“I want him to be able to brush his teeth independently, but I also want them to actually get brushed.”source ↗

“I mean, my dude is 23m and still chews his brush more than brushes so. I still brush his teeth with his hands holding it.”source ↗

“Our daughter is almost 3yo. A parent brushes her teeth in the evening and she brushes her teeth in the morning. She does a surprisingly mediocre job after practicing like this for several months.”source ↗

“What do you do if they refuse to get up out of bed in the morning and get themselves dressed? Like if we don’t leave by 7 then I’m late for work? Eventually I just cave and help her”source ↗

“It’s like she’s uncertain of everything in the world and needs reassurance, which I know is absolutely normal it’s just this one is so much more than my other kids and it’s so overwhelming for me”source ↗

“Following because I have a kiddo who is very similar. She needs every instruction spelled out even though she's done it every day...”source ↗

“My son is like this lately. He's 6. It started after I had my third. I think he does it for attention. He's very smart and kind of a loner and I think he misses socializing with me but the only thing he knows how to do to start it is to ask me for help and for permission.”source ↗