Why won't my kids listen unless I yell?

“I feel like I am constantly repeating directions, even basic ones of how to turn in their assignments.”source ↗

“Still i am constantly having to repeat them!”source ↗

“By the time they are with me a lot of the kids are exhausted and struggling to listen.”source ↗

“Me getting mad at the kids for developmentally normal behavior is just making everyone miserable.”source ↗

“The struggle is that I’ve done this with much smaller groups in the past and things work differently in a large group environment.”source ↗

“We struggle to get her to fully pay attention and stay still, because she has a short attention span. And I mean quite literally a 2 minute attention span.”source ↗

“she struggles with her letters and numbers. she can count to 3 and sometimes 4 if I can get her to pay attention long enough.”source ↗

“We are struggling on how to catch her attention and to get her to stay focused when trying to teach her numbers and letters.”source ↗

“My son turns 4 soon and I thought we’d get through the threenager stage and things would get better.”source ↗

“Not that it seems to matter because he doesn’t do what I ask until I get mean about it.”source ↗

“Im at a loss. I have a sweet little 3 year old boy who WON’T listen unless it suits him.”source ↗

“I have no idea how to handle this because I was spanked growing up but strongly disagree with doing that.”source ↗

“I have found that yelling startlingly makes him listen, so in my desperation that’s what I do…but I hate myself for it because I don’t want his little self to be living in fight or flight from having an angry mom.”source ↗

“My problem is she will take some space, cry about it, pout whatever… and come back and say something like “I didn’t like it when you yelled at me” 🥲 when I never did.”source ↗

“Our 2 year old will not stop climbing onto things, moving things like chairs and tables to climb onto the kitchen counter and explore the cabinets or what I'm doing in the kitchen.”source ↗

“I also have a little girl who continually does not listen.”source ↗

“tonight I've had to remove their tables and chairs, my son hit my daughter with a wooden spoon he got from the kitchen counter, and hit her with a boot.”source ↗

“lately I've felt like my requests fall on deaf ears.”source ↗

“What does it mean for a two and a four year-old boy to listen?”source ↗

“When I ask for things to be done, I generally have to repeat myself depending on what it is.”source ↗

“I don’t wanna be a pushover, but at the same time I feel like a certain amount of patience should be expected for a two and a four year-old.”source ↗

“Am I being too patient?”source ↗

“Lately I find them completely out of control. They just do not listen.”source ↗

“It seems like only when we are borderline yelling do they do what we ask.”source ↗

“Her tantrums also get very physical which is getting harder as she gets older.”source ↗

“My 9 year old is very sensitive, it sounds like your daughter may be too. He counts being told not to do something as "getting in trouble". It doesn't even have to be said sternly.”source ↗

“As a kid, I would refer to any discipline as "yelling at me" even though my parents rarely yelled. If they corrected me, saying they didn't actually yell, I'd roll my eyes and say "fine, scolded"”source ↗

“My 5 (nearly 6) year old still does this, more often aimed at her dad/my partner. He does get very firm, sometimes loud. He rarely yells.”source ↗

“Honestly, I do the same thing as her lol. If anyone ever says “can you not do that” I’ll say they yelled at me. I don’t mean they literally raised their voice. I just mean they corrected me in some way.”source ↗

“My daughter is 4 and I am drowning, I’m not sure she’s ever been this disobedient until now… at this point I just need someone to tell me this is a phase, lol.”source ↗

“I didn’t want to be the strict or “mean” parent, I wanted it to he easy and mellow and just have him listen.”source ↗

“I have hit an absolute wall with them in regard to them “listening” to me when it comes to basic things they know they aren’t supposed to do or just basic run of the mill “rules”.”source ↗

“I’m at my breaking point. I’m tired. Tired of arguing. Tired of having to ask 5 times.”source ↗

“My issue isn’t so much with “chores” as it is just having to reiterate rules or ask them to stop a behavior.”source ↗

“I shout sometimes too despite my best efforts so not judging but shouting is not productive.”source ↗

“I do get the struggle with having Kids do Things without getting physical or loud. That's something every parent Deals with!”source ↗

“My 6yo has always had problems with doing what she is told the first time. But here lately I am just at my wits end with it. I have to repeat myself several times before she does what she is told.”source ↗

“Yesterday was an awful day, literally ALL DAY I had to get onto for making me repeat myself several times.”source ↗

“I’m getting so over it. I don’t know if it’s a me problem, or what.”source ↗

“After the 5th attempt I will gradually raise my voice and it they are still not listening I will start shouting. How do I get out of the door without shouting or physically brushing their teeth or putting their shoes on.”source ↗

“I'm genuinely lost as how to resolve this.”source ↗