Said It Here

Non-religious parent whose kid wants to go to church

Non-religious parents want to support their child's autonomy and decision-making while feeling uncomfortable with organized religion. The main difficulty is finding a safe environment where a child can learn about beliefs without being exposed to hate speech.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    Allowing the child to attend church with a grandparent to see if they lose interest
  2. 2
    Explaining different religions and the concept of God in a matter-of-fact way
  3. 3
    Supplementing church visits with education about other belief systems and world religions
  4. 4
    Finding alternative inclusive and progressive spaces like a Unitarian Universalist church

In their words

Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.

I guess I’m wondering what advice you’d offer, especially if you’re agnostic. I want her to learn about all religions and beliefs eventually I just don’t want her to attend a place that spews hate using the bible.. and that can be kind of hard in these areasource ↗

ash-anon · r/Parenting · 106 upvotes

We're not religious but if my kid wanted to go to church I'd let her because I want her to know that I support her being able to make her own decisions and I love her no matter what.source ↗

StarlightDreamer9 · r/Parenting · 1 upvotes

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