Inviting people to pre-wedding events who aren't invited to the wedding
Pre-wedding events like engagement parties are traditionally meant only for wedding guests, leaving hosts struggling to celebrate with coworkers or friends without causing social friction or making uninvited guests feel secondary. Trying to navigate this creates awkward assumptions about who will receive a wedding invite, and people feel there is no classy way to handle the overlap.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1Renaming the event to avoid engagement or wedding terminology
- 2Hosting a casual, no-gifts happy hour instead of an official party
- 3Waiting to celebrate with coworkers or uninvited people in a low-key way after the wedding has already occurred
- 4Trimming the event guest list down to only include people who will receive wedding invitations
- 5planning casual alternative events like bowling and pizza
- 6consulting family members for consensus
- 7researching pricing for restaurants and alternative venues
In their words
Unedited, most upvoted first, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I guess I am not sure what is considered a “normal” price for this dinner to know what is too outrageous?”source ↗
“There’s not really a classy way to do this. Engagement parties should only be for people invited to the wedding.”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
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