Said It Here

How to open a bank account without your parents knowing

When parents have access to or monitor an existing account, opening a new one independently creates risks of them finding out through transfers or shared information like an SSN. This prevents people from making private online payments or moving their money securely without detection.

What people tried

Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.

  1. 1
    my brother suggests i use chime
  2. 2
    Opening an account at a completely different bank than the parents use
  3. 3
    Setting mail delivery addresses to college offices instead of family homes
  4. 4
    Switching to paperless statements
  5. 5
    Using secured credit cards or prepaid cards instead of standard checking/debit

In their words

Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.

r/personalfinance3 people · September 2026

“I need to be able to make online payments not through my existing bank account (which my parents monitor closely).”source ↗

“will they be able to tell somehow through my SSN / other info that I opened a debit card?”source ↗

Dense-Ferret1523 · r/personalfinance · 57 upvotes

“Just adding that if you plan to move money from the old account to the new your parents would be able to see the transfer. So you won’t be able to fly completely under the radar”source ↗

tymtt · r/personalfinance · 1 upvotes

“i currently have a bank of america account, but i want to set up a new one because my parents have access to that account and have taken money out of it before..”source ↗

Cold-Watercress-4706 · r/personalfinance

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