How to help an autistic child handle playground name-calling

“He’s very sensitive and deals with some dysregulation. He still cries often and we are really trying to work on it.”source ↗

“His family has huge ties in our town, they are super wealthy and basically run and support every town sports league.”source ↗

“Well, this boy flat out pushed my son at the football game today into a giant mud puddle and laughed.”source ↗

“I’m afraid to speak up to the coach/ league because politics. My son loves the sport and I don’t want to ruffle feathers.”source ↗

“Now we’re in public kindergarten with a bigger class, and there are other girls seeing these traits as a weakness and making fun of her every day.”source ↗

“But I need some ideas on how to help her build confidence and setting boundaries, because she cried this morning before school saying “it’s okay, I like it when they call me those names.” 😭”source ↗

“I’m overwhelmed with how to approach it since our conversations haven’t helped so far.”source ↗

“She told me that this girl tells her she is fat and ugly. That she hates my daughter because she is fat and ugly and is going to bring a knife to school to stab her.”source ↗

“My daughter said that she is ruining her life. That she fights tears everyday. She is only in the first grade.”source ↗

“Kids in my son’s class are saying mean things about him”source ↗

“He doesn’t want to talk to the teacher or have me talk to the principal.”source ↗

“Lately, one boy has been particularly unkind, saying things like “I like seeing you cry,” yelling at him, and getting physically rough.”source ↗

“Now my son has decided to play alone at recess rather than deal with this boy.”source ↗

“I’m proud of him for setting boundaries, but it breaks my heart that avoiding one kid means losing his entire friend group.”source ↗

“Would you intervene, encourage separate friendships with the other boys, or let things play out?”source ↗

“Do I approach brandon’s parent? Do I ask brandon first? I dont want to overstep because I feel like it could get worse if parents step in.”source ↗

“Do I approach the bullies and ask them to back off kindly? This has been weighing on my son but I tell him I can’t protect everyone the way we can protect him.”source ↗

“This school year there’s a girl in her class who’s mean. She’s constantly getting in trouble for bullying and my daughter is terrified she will become a target. She used to love school and now she’s saying she doesn’t want to go.”source ↗

“I worry that her anxiety will only get worse. Switching schools is a possibility but I would only switch mid year if it got worse. I also fear switching and then the new school has a mean kid and we’re in the same position.”source ↗

“Since kindergarten, another child (a girl if it matters) has been hitting him, pinching him, jumping on him, choking him and once threatened to kill him.”source ↗

“We emailed his teacher letting him know of the last interaction with this child and asked for advice and guidance. No reply. (3 days ago). Yesterday the same child was pinching my son all during the day. I emailed again. No reply.”source ↗

“I’m planning to talk to the school and am hoping they take it seriously, but given that there is no direct contact between George and my son, feel like they won’t do anything.”source ↗

“My youngest is not the fight back kind of guy he’s basically walked away but this bully is just not stopping.”source ↗

“The coach is proud of him for walking away not engaging back as are my husband and I but we’ve run out of advice, anything we can do because this other kid needs to stop”source ↗

“We also have talked to the principal about this and I’ve talked to the boys mother who takes my morning cycling class at gym I work for she was no help.”source ↗

“My son has just started Kindergarden and has been dealing with other kids being aggressive with him.”source ↗

“He asked me just now as we were doing bed time how he can protect himself from these kids, and im not sure what the best advise to give him is.”source ↗

“He has already tried telling a grown up and it just continues to go unnoticed.”source ↗

“I’m honestly not good at explaining the “correct” way to handle situations like this.”source ↗

“I want to make sure I’m teaching them how to handle these situations in a healthy way instead of reacting based on my own emotions.”source ↗

“I’m realizing I really need to figure out how to have these conversations with my younger kids now.”source ↗

“my super extremely basic question is: how should I advise him on how to act when he gets teased or made fun of or called a name or things like that?”source ↗

“overall I’m really not sure if myself as a parent in this situation.”source ↗

“the upshot is that I lack intuition on how this can be healthily addressed in a well run school today.”source ↗

“My question firstly is how is this funny? I guess I’m pretty old at 38 because I totally don’t get it. And is this on its face malicious bullying or just kids being dumb kids?”source ↗

“My son wasn’t bothered by the interaction until my wife told him he was being bullied and should have handled the interaction differently.”source ↗

“And if he’s unbothered by the interaction why bother telling him he’s even been bullied? Who cares? Sometimes ignorance is bliss.”source ↗

“Fast forward a few months, I heard my son the other day talking to a friend how he hates this kid because he’s ’so annoying’.”source ↗

“Generally I think talking about someone like that behind their back should be discouraged, but how would you deal with it in this instance where there is a clear reason why he doesn’t like this kid?”source ↗

“Today he came home saying that a kid called him stupid while playing on the playground.”source ↗

“How should I have handled this? What do you say to this? I want him to be resilient and stand up for himself. Do you guys know of any scripts I could teach him to use?”source ↗

“when it happened to us, we were told ‘if a kid doesn’t want to play with your son, they don’t have to’ and it got worse.”source ↗

“His parents are literally involved in everything in and out of school, coach all of the activities and sports, so I feel like I am opening a very big door here and exposing us to more bullying but from George’s parents.”source ↗

“My daughter gets off the bus visibly upset on a regular basis.”source ↗

“I'm struggling with where the line is between developmentally normal conflict and a genuine safety concern.”source ↗

“My juniors aged child, is being bullied by a girl in their class.”source ↗

“My child isn't the only one who has been targeted over the years and I know other people have been reluctant to raise it.”source ↗

“I can't help but still be quite worried that my child is going to be left to the mercy of a nasty bully.”source ↗

“He is bothered by it. That’s why I’m asking for help about what to do. He thinks if I reach out to the teacher and the kids get in trouble, then things will escalate.”source ↗

“My daughter never said anything to me.”source ↗

“At first she denied anything happened, finally she said, "fine, it happened."”source ↗

“She was almost in tears because she didn't want to talk about it.”source ↗

“I am worried that this will get worse as she gets older. I want her to feel like she can confide in me.”source ↗

“It kills me to think she's being elbowed and she's not only not standing up for herself, she's making excuses for him like, "it hardly hurt."”source ↗

“My girl is a first grader too and she is so tall and different looking than the other girls (aka we’re not white). She is a doll but I fear of bullying all the time.”source ↗

“Is it normal for a child to have daily issues with certain boys and have daily complains?”source ↗

“Since the start of school year my 8 years old have been complaining of 2 boys D and J”source ↗

“Thurday he had a mouth injury from one of them the boy kept blocking my sons way not letting him walk so he bend under the table to try and walk away and the metal sharp edge bit his mouth”source ↗

“I emailed the teacher finally but I always feel like a karen”source ↗

“Student A is a regular issue in my classroom, but normally just disruptions. He sometimes has annoyed Student B by asking her for chips.”source ↗

“Today in class, while I was helping another group, I hear Student A scream, “Nooooooo!” He was on his knees making a big scene. I try to figure out what happened, and what I found out is that he asked her to homecoming as a joke, with zero intent to take her.”source ↗

“Did I address this correctly? As someone who has been bullied in a similar manner, I want to make sure Student B is safe and comfortable in my classroom.”source ↗

“Just got an email from admin that our fourth grade class has a major bullying problem. There are only four kids in the whole class!”source ↗

“Kid's been getting it from the same group since March. And now, the same story continues. She'd reported it, she'd heard the right words back, and it was still happening.”source ↗

“The protections that actually force a district to document and respond are getting stripped out, and I see what that looks like in practice, not a debate, just a kid who's less safe and a parent who thought the school had their back.”source ↗

“then, he begged me not to contact our school’s dean or his parents. he said his mother will homeschool him if he has another “incident” like this.”source ↗

“because i’m in this godforsaken state, i can’t really say anything besides “ignore them and tell me when they say it” and moving on. i don’t want to do wrong by him. help.”source ↗