Why does a long wedding engagement take so long?
Venue availability and scheduling bottlenecks force couples into multi-year engagements that leave them feeling exhausted and over it before the wedding even happens. This endless waiting turns what should be an exciting milestone into a frustrating drag, making people wish they had done something sooner.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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Why does a long wedding engagement take so long?
- 1Having a small elopement or courthouse ceremony beforehand while planning a larger wedding celebration for laterDid this help you?
- 2planning a destination weddingDid this help you?
- 3looking forward to other things in the interimDid this help you?
- 4taking time to enjoy being engaged without rushingDid this help you?
- 5considering an alternative timeline or elopingDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I’m only about 5 months in and I’m already just feeling annoyed I still have so long to wait.”source ↗
“At times I was sick of the waiting and wish we had done something sooner”source ↗
“I feel like with the whole engagement and wedding thing I’ve just been in a constant state of waiting for so long against my will and it’s going to be even longer 😭 I’m starting to just be so over it and annoyed honestly.”source ↗
“I’m so sick of just waiting waiting waiting and now I have to wait nearly 2 more years.”source ↗
“It’s looking like due to venues and availability we won’t be getting married until spring 2028. We have already been engaged for a couple months, and honestly waiting 20+ more months to get married seems like such a drag to me!”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
- 12Is a wedding venue with a two-hour drive too far for guests?
- 8What do grooms do to fill time before the wedding?
- 3Why is my wedding photographer taking so long and not replying?
- 2How to pass the time on a long flight without sleeping pills
- 4Why do students have to sit in the testing room after finishing early?
- 2Will a small wedding feel awkward, boring, or pathetic?