Is a big wedding actually worth the cost and stress?
Planning a wedding requires immense extra work and spending large sums of money that can trigger constant regret over missed practical alternatives like groceries. This heavy financial and emotional toll leads many couples to question whether the single day will ultimately be worth the stress.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
- 1planning an international micro wedding
- 2eloping instead of having a traditional wedding
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I’m thinking about how hard I’m going to have to work extra to make it work and I *think* it’ll be worth it but I don’t know.”source ↗
“I hated planning, I hated spending all the money on that, every dollar I kept thinking about how many groceries that would buy us instead of centerpieces or invitations.”source ↗
“I am a month out from my wedding and my and my fiancé both regret planning it. I’m sure we’ll have a good time on the day, but when we compare the money spent and all the stress caused, we don’t think it’s going to end up being worth it.”source ↗
Where this came up
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