Is it okay to ask wedding guests to pay for their lodging?
Asking guests to contribute toward accommodations when a venue requires a full property buyout can feel unreasonable or catch people off guard. Without explicit communication, guests often assume their stay is fully covered by the couple, leading to awkward misunderstandings and unexpected financial friction.
What people tried
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Is it okay to ask wedding guests to pay for their lodging?
- 1Having guests pick their own alternative accommodations nearbyDid this help you?
- 2Treating the payment like a traditional room block rateDid this help you?
- 3Having family members with extra space in a rented property take the guest in for freeDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
““What do I do once I get to the hotel? Because you have it covered, right?””source ↗
“My heart nearly fell out of my chest because no, we did not have it covered.”source ↗
“she just didn’t read the website or our message and assumed we were paying for her week-long hotel stay for her without confirming it with us”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
- 5Where should we stay on our wedding night?
- 13How is anyone actually affording a large wedding?
- 5Do wedding guests actually need a hotel block and shuttle?
- 7How to ask for money instead of gifts without looking rude
- 3How to ask parents for money when they already support me
- 2How to invite people to a short ceremony with no reception