How to deal with strict school rules when you're naturally relaxed
Being naturally relaxed creates daily stress because school leadership cares about administrative rules and expectations that you do not personally prioritize, leaving you feeling like they are constantly on your back. Finding a balance requires learning how to be stricter in a way that feels natural and deciding which specific standards are actually worth your energy.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
Found another way around this?
Share your steps and trade-offs so fellow engineers don't have to reinvent the wheel. No account required.
- 1Blaming strict rules on admin and school policies rather than personal strictnessDid this help you?
- 2Allowing minor infractions to slide initially but establishing private or gradual intervention plansDid this help you?
- 3Implementing personal classroom policies and boundaries that offer some grace while maintaining a paper trailDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“I'm naturally a little too relaxed about things sometimes and I'd love some tips about how to be a little more strict in a way that feels natural”source ↗
“My biggest stressor on a daily basis is that I feel like school leadership cares about more things than I care about, and I don't want them on my back about it.”source ↗
“i’ve been thinking about this exact thing lately and you put it into words when i couldn’t”source ↗
“Commenting to come back. Been in the profession for almost ten and have the same problem....”source ↗
“I was in the same boat. I didn’t care about certain things so now I really decide what I consider important.”source ↗
Where this came up
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- 12Why do parents keep asking for my personal phone number?
- 3How do you balance high academic standards with student well-being?