Why do contractors insist both spouses are home for a quote?
This is an old-school, high-pressure sales tactic designed to pitch to one spouse and make it harder for the other to say no. Salespeople insist on both partners being present so you cannot use the excuse of needing to consult them to escape a long, aggressive presentation. The demand completely ignores widows and spouses who have zero interest in the project, prompting many homeowners to immediately cancel their appointments.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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Why do contractors insist both spouses are home for a quote?
- 1Canceling the appointment immediately and refusing to do business with companies that enforce this rule.Did this help you?
- 2Finding smaller, local companies or independent contractors instead of large national chains.Did this help you?
- 3Setting a strict appointment window upfront (e.g., "Let's meet at 3, I have another meeting at 3:45") to limit the time they can spend pitching.Did this help you?
- 4Asking for contractor recommendations at a local lumber yard.Did this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“Why does every company make an appt, then an hour before the appt they call and insist that both husband and wife be there for the appt? She admits she does not want to be there and knows nothing about windows.”source ↗
“When I was much younger I fell for letting one of these sales people in my home and told them I wanted to run it past my parents first. They we're all like well lets get them on the phone right now. After 2hrs of "presentation" I finally had to threaten to call the cops to get the guy to leave.”source ↗
“I am a widow. There is no husband to be home, but I guess I can bring his ashes out if they need it. Would 10/10 cancel the appointment.”source ↗
“It’s an old school high pressure sales technique that assumes one party (the husband) is making the financial decision. So they pitch to the wife to try to make it harder for the husband to say no. It’s super lame and I turn down any business that says they “require” it.”source ↗
Where this came up
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