Tips for not sobbing through your wedding vows
Tearing up while writing and practicing vows makes it difficult to keep a cool head during the ceremony. This prevents people from getting through their recitation without breaking down.
What people tried
Every workaround mentioned in the threads below. We haven’t tested any of them — and nobody here is claiming they worked.
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- 1Reading vows to each other in private the morning of the wedding to get the tears out earlyDid this help you?
- 2Practicing vows while staring at a wallDid this help you?
- 3Reading vows to a friend firstDid this help you?
- 4Practicing delivery repeatedly to build desensitizationDid this help you?
- 5Consulting a doctor for beta blocker medications like propranololDid this help you?
- 6Keeping the emotional content strictly reserved for the couple's own vowsDid this help you?
In their words
Unedited, grouped by where they were said, most upvoted first within each place, each linked to the thread it came from.
“This is embarrassing to write but has anyone else found themselves crying suddenly while planning?”source ↗
“I think I selected the song I want to walk down the aisle to and it keeps making me cry, imagining the day feels so emotional!”source ↗
“It’s not sadness, but I don’t like feeling like I’m going to be a wreck that day! I want to be smiling!”source ↗
“Does anyone have tips for not sobbing through the vows?”source ↗
“I am writing them and keep tearing up and I know that on the day of, in the middle of all the magic I will most likely cry multiple times during the day one of which being my vows lol any tips and tricks to keep a cool head while reciting them?”source ↗
“i practiced mine while staring at a wall and it helped but still cried a little on the day.”source ↗
“I practiced my vows so many times until I could say them without crying and then still ended up weeping through them on the day.”source ↗
“I’m officiating for a close family member’s wedding. Problem is, I’m a cryer. I get choked up just practicing delivering the ceremony.”source ↗
Where this came up
People with this problem also raised
- 18Why am I so terrified right before my wedding?
- 9How to write a non-religious wedding ceremony script from scratch
- 3Should we do wedding speeches at the reception or rehearsal dinner?
- 12Regretting wedding planning long before the date
- 2Why does a long wedding engagement take so long?
- 6Am I being too bold by changing traditional wedding traditions?