What to do when your best friend won't come to your wedding

“we’ve had multiple people complain to us about having to miss out on other events to attend our wedding.”source ↗

“every time I hear someone complain about having to miss/change something because of us it just reaffirms that feeling.”source ↗

“The amount of people who have texted that "they forgot" about the wedding (not just the rsvp deadline) is hurtful.”source ↗

“We have also had friends and family both who just have completely ignored our text reminder.”source ↗

“I am finding it hard right now because i feel so alone, i never thought growing up i wouldnt have friends to invite to my wedding and family.”source ↗

“And throughout planning i havent really received much support from my side to get things done which is okay but i just feel sad that i dont have a sense of community anywhere.”source ↗

“I came to kind of get advice on how to deal with the painful emotions of a sibling, my only sibling, not being able to come to my wedding because of his mental disability.”source ↗

“a part of me just feels hurt. Because he is physically able to come and not living abroad like some of my family, there's a small part of me that can't just shrug it off.”source ↗

“In the end there will be no shaming or pressuring, but it will weigh on me to have all my wedding photos and ceremony video without him present.”source ↗

“My wedding is next Saturday and I just learned that my elderly dad is too sick to make the trip”source ↗

“His doctor advised him not to travel until they can diagnose him, and he’s not scheduled for another appointment until after my wedding.”source ↗

“It’s not his fault he’s sick and I’m not mad at him for it. But how can I get over being upset at the situation of not having my dad there with me?”source ↗

“One of my friends recently had a baby and it’s made for a difficult decision and I don’t know what to do.”source ↗

“If I say no kids, said friend wouldn’t come.”source ↗

“My dilemma is specifically just between getting over it and inviting her (with the baby) vs. Not inviting her at all.”source ↗

“As the anxious head I am, I have fixated on this for the last few months worrying about whether this is a sign they didn't enjoy the day or care for me in the same way they do for other friends and I just wanted to get some advice.”source ↗

“Next year I am bridesmaids for one of these girls and I’m already worrying about having to see everyone else’s posts to resurface these feelings so any advice or strategies to help would be really appreciated!”source ↗

“I feel so guilty about not pushing for GA for that reason. But we are kinda already locked in now. If it weren’t for the guilt of my grandpa’s attendance, I’d be very happy with UT wedding!”source ↗

“Am I cruel for putting pressure on him? Should I have no brained pushed for GA wedding? I struggle a lot with guilt and feeling like a bad person and this is eating at me.”source ↗

“I did tell him how important it is to me and I think he understands, I guess that's why it hurts so much because it's no one's fault per se it just sucks.”source ↗

“Talked about saving money but I also didn’t really want my only friends to realize they’re my *only friends.*”source ↗

“I am in a similar situation now. Figured out a date & found a dress, nothing else. Grew up with a huge family but mom has since passed and her side is gone. We are older, I lack friends and a social life other than friends online that live all over in our birding community. The dreams I had are gone.”source ↗

“One of my best friends isn't coming to my wedding and I'm feeling pretty upset about it.”source ↗

“And now they have told me they won’t be able to come in December because they don’t have enough holidays.”source ↗

“And I can’t lie. I’m really hurt.”source ↗

“And I’m finding myself getting more and more upset every time I hear it.”source ↗

“And now I’m realizing that some of those people might not actually be there. And I’m really struggling with that.”source ↗